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Rebooting psychologically and physically

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Discipline123, Mar 1, 2016.

  1. Discipline123

    Discipline123 Fapstronaut

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    Greetings my fellow soldiers -

    Can anyone give me a quick explanation of how the reboot process works in your mind vs in your junk?

    I've suffered from premature ejaculation pretty much my whole life. Will I be cured of that by nailing this reboot process "hard-mode" style? Also how will I know my mind is ever ready to return to a healthy relationship with sex?

    Also I am trying this new thought exercise called "pre-mortem"...it's basically where you envision everything going wrong and what you will do to respond. I'm currently putting my plan together. Since you all are my fellow advisers, any tips or suggestions on what to do if I relapse from P,M, or O (or all three at the same time)

    Thanks for the help in advance.

    Kyle
     
  2. knzer

    knzer Fapstronaut

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    Regarding premature ejaculation, http://yourbrainonporn.com/ may have some anecdotes that could help.

    For the reboot process, it can also be found within the above website.
    Personally, I believe the process is really just about your brain rewiring itself back to a normal sensitivity, as well as letting your sexual function return to the level it's meant to be for a normal human before widespread of porn.

    As for Pre-Mortem, it sounds like an interesting strategy!
    Nevertheless I'd suggest focusing much more on prevention.
    Here're some biggest factors which helped myself getting to day 56:
    - I installed a powerful porn blocker with the password to unlock it given to a trusted friend, then I wiped away any PW traces, so that each time if I'm to edge/relapse, I'd have to ask my friend and persuade him to give me back the password. If your friend is hard to persuade/reach, this strategy can be very effective. Make sure you also block some secret porn websites only you know that isn't blocked by the blocker.
    - Participate in all sorts of social/fun activities, especially during the first few weeks, as the urge to relapse tends to be the strongest. By minimizing the time you're spending alone at the place you used to PMO, it really helps to overcome this initial period with high chance of relapsing.
    - Cultivate mindfulness, it helps to be aware of your urges and thus stop it from growing into strong impulses. Meditation helps.
    - Keeping a journal with supports from this warm community. And also reach out to support others. It really helps in terms of reminding yourself from time to time why you're even doing this!
    - Keep a counter in your signature. Set a goal and strive to reach it. Reset if you relapse. Never give up!

    And I would suggest you to join a group here in nofap, e.g. Heirs of the Sun. I just joined it recently and it seems like an immensely helpful way to prevent relapses.

    If in case you really do relapse, just like what I did for a couple of times before reaching my current streak, I would say, don't let a slip justify a full-out binge, just accept all natural feelings that come with a relapse, write it down in the journal, learn the lesson, reset the counter, and move the fxxx on with your life. Dwelling on it only worsens the situation!!

    Good luck man!
     
  3. Discipline123

    Discipline123 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for all the great suggestions buddy! Best of luck in your recovery process.
     

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