rebooting while having dead beadroom

[jammja]

i’m in a unpleasant situation. I’m addicted to porn and trying to reboot.
I am very attracted physically to my wife but we have some rough time and we had sex maybe twice in the last six months.

I’m worried that because of the rebooting I will start begging for intimacy and I will get rejected again and again…

 

[Sad_wife]

i’m in a unpleasant situation. I’m addicted to porn and trying to reboot.
I am very attracted physically to my wife but we have some rough time and we had sex maybe twice in the last six months.

I’m worried that because of the rebooting I will start begging for intimacy and I will get rejected again and again…

This makes me sad to hear. There are definitely deeper issues. Maybe couples counseling would help. I know it’s a sensitive subject but intimacy is important. Dose she M? Have you asked? This seems like a sexless marriage.

 

[Psalm27:1my light]

i’m in a unpleasant situation. I’m addicted to porn and trying to reboot.
I am very attracted physically to my wife but we have some rough time and we had sex maybe twice in the last six months.

I’m worried that because of the rebooting I will start begging for intimacy and I will get rejected again and again…

The orgasm gap between men and women is big. Does she orgasm? Because let’s be honest, although sex is nice, without orgasm it’s not nearly as nice. If you come, she doesn’t/hasn’t and then you roll over and go to sleep, she may just be tired of servicing you. Or, given your age, if she is in her 40’s she quite likely is in perimenopause which can greatly affect her libido. Another issue, is sex painful for her? There can be so many reasons for someone to avoid sex. have you talked in depth about this and what has she said?

 

[fredisthebes]

I’m worried that because of the rebooting I will start begging for intimacy and I will get rejected again and again…

Has this happened before? So much that you have stopped asking? Maybe she thinks that you are content with the situation. It'll be a difficult conversation, but you need to talk about it.

Are you 'intimate' in other ways? Do you share a bed, cuddle, kiss etc? Is she (and/or you) too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep? Have other stresses going on in your life? Is there romance in your relationship? Do you still go on 'dates'? Text each other supportive and romantic things out of the blue?

 

[Happy_husband]

i’m in a unpleasant situation. I’m addicted to porn and trying to reboot.
I am very attracted physically to my wife but we have some rough time and we had sex maybe twice in the last six months.

I’m worried that because of the rebooting I will start begging for intimacy and I will get rejected again and again…

What rough time? Were there fights? It is hard for us to give good advice without some details.

 

[stmos]

My wife and I have a rule. No matter how angry we are at each other. We always agreed to have sex at least once a week. Even if we have to put it on the schedule. My wife has a very low sex drive and I have a very high sex drive.

Have you ever tried doing other things that might be fun for you, like date nights puzzles scratching her head if she likes that? Try to have fun with her doing other things. Also try to complement her explain to her that you find her attractive.