Reclaiming My Journey: Restarting NoFap After 6 Years

[DadBodFit]

Hello everyone,

I'm back on this journey after six years, now with a wife and two kids. Over the past eight years, I've slipped back into old habits, becoming obsessed with porn and regularly PMOing to relieve frustration from not having regular sex with my wife. This has led me to objectify women, and almost anything can trigger the urge to PMO. My willpower is at an all-time low.

On the positive side, I'm in the best physical shape of my life at 34. I strength train 4-5 times a week and do morning cardio three times a week. Despite my physical fitness, my mental clarity and drive for personal development have dwindled. I used to be passionate about side hustles and achieving new goals, but now I find myself procrastinating, even though I have a great idea for an app. Instead, I spend 2-3 hours PMOing, which makes no sense to me.

I don't have anyone to talk to about this, so I'm here seeking help, guidance, and the support of the NoFap brotherhood. I’m ready to reclaim my journey and get back on track.

Heres to starting my 30 day challenge as a starting point.

Thank you for your support.

 

[DadBodFit]

Day 2

Fighting back hourly urges to PMO

The meme of "Hawk Tuah" girl going round social media almost triggered me.

Going strong still, had morning cardio today and have heavy gym sesh later today I'll focus all my frustration and energy on.

 

[Pete the Chairman]

Hello everyone,

I'm back on this journey after six years, now with a wife and two kids. Over the past eight years, I've slipped back into old habits, becoming obsessed with porn and regularly PMOing to relieve frustration from not having regular sex with my wife. This has led me to objectify women, and almost anything can trigger the urge to PMO. My willpower is at an all-time low.

On the positive side, I'm in the best physical shape of my life at 34. I strength train 4-5 times a week and do morning cardio three times a week. Despite my physical fitness, my mental clarity and drive for personal development have dwindled. I used to be passionate about side hustles and achieving new goals, but now I find myself procrastinating, even though I have a great idea for an app. Instead, I spend 2-3 hours PMOing, which makes no sense to me.

I don't have anyone to talk to about this, so I'm here seeking help, guidance, and the support of the NoFap brotherhood. I’m ready to reclaim my journey and get back on track.

Heres to starting my 30 day challenge as a starting point.

Thank you for your support.

This definitely resonates with me. Good luck!

 

[DadBodFit]

Day 4

It's been going strong, been distracted by being busy with he family, plus contemplating going hard at the gym 4 days a week, so instead of 3 days full body I will do 2 days legs 2 days upper.

I did have sex with the Mrs which is part of my journey, this is not something I want to give up as its a bigger part of my relationship with the mrs and something I want to improve on and in being more regular.

something big too...I caught myself one moment too looking gon social media, seen a picture of a woman who was clearly dressed in a certain way to grab attention and my first thought was "Ok let me see if she has an onlyfans" BUT I caught myself in that moment and stopped myself, dropped down and did 20 pushups.

 

[Pete the Chairman]

Great job catching yourself. I'm looking to up my fitness too - I used to do a lot of triathlon but have lapsed for a while. Reading other threads on here though, it seems that depending on the stage of recovery, exercise doesn't always give you a positive feeling. I suppose it's different for everyone and I'll take it as it comes - I'll probably hop on the turbo trainer later today.

I have also got some doubts about the idea of restraining from O entirely - one of my main aims in this is to rebuild my sexual relationship with my wife, and it seems to me that continuing to have sex and orgasms with her ought to be reinforcing 'healthy' brain pathways while the PM goes into the background. I think there are a couple of risks around this for me - there may be the 'chaser' effect where having on orgasm leads you to look for more in PM, but I'm also worried that reeling rotten after poor performance with my wife due to PIED or similar, or needing to draw on fantasy/flashback /memories of porn to get/stay hard might be counterproductive.

 

[DadBodFit]

Great job catching yourself. I'm looking to up my fitness too - I used to do a lot of triathlon but have lapsed for a while. Reading other threads on here though, it seems that depending on the stage of recovery, exercise doesn't always give you a positive feeling. I suppose it's different for everyone and I'll take it as it comes - I'll probably hop on the turbo trainer later today.

I have also got some doubts about the idea of restraining from O entirely - one of my main aims in this is to rebuild my sexual relationship with my wife, and it seems to me that continuing to have sex and orgasms with her ought to be reinforcing 'healthy' brain pathways while the PM goes into the background. I think there are a couple of risks around this for me - there may be the 'chaser' effect where having on orgasm leads you to look for more in PM, but I'm also worried that reeling rotten after poor performance with my wife due to PIED or similar, or needing to draw on fantasy/flashback /memories of porn to get/stay hard might be counterproductive.

Hey man,

Yeah for me and probably because after 34 years on this planet I finally want to get the body and fitness level I know I can, and get rid of this dad bad lower belly aha! For me working out definitely helps.

Yeah when I first did this I did full PMO (I did not have my mrs in my life then) My goals now have changed and I want to develop a stronger sexual bond with her, if we had no O it would not help, I think balance in life is healthy. I would say start strong as if you're thinking this already then its on your mind and most likely will manifest when you go to be intimate with her, lots of foreplay helps and being an unselfish lover goes along way, 95% of the time I want to be intimate with her not so I can O but so I can pleasure her.

Good look on your journey Pete