Recovered from DE?

Hey 2many,

Go 90 days without touching yourself and watching porn or porn substitutes.

Some need longer. I would suggest to quit porn forever.
If you watched a lot of porn before, abstaining from physical touch will re-sensitize your penis and rewire your brain as well.
Thinking that you aren't supposed to breed is only something fucking porn will do to you.
Get rid of it and let your mind and body heal.
I would suggest being honest to your wife and focus on intimacy while your rebooting, rather then the sex.
At least for the first 30-60 days.

All the best, be strong.

 

hi your DE is likely rooted in your PMO. Your body has "learned" to expect certain types of mental and physical stimulation. PIV provides a totally different set of sensations and your body just doesn't know how to process the sensations. Stop PMO and stop any solo MO. Spend intimate time with your wife. Proceed slowly and you will learn to savor the sensations that happen together. They are MUCH better than anything you've EVER experienced with PMO !!

 

hi 'run (and others)

 

sorry, there is no link. what I meant to type was "my post on March 13 in this thread is my own experience"

brain and fingers got out of sync when typing !

If you want to read further about a journey to healing DE, check out some old posts (2016) by RedEd101 where he shares his experiences.

one day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Hi 'many !

Checking on you. Are you doing OK ?

one day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

If she has pain in other positions, i would work my ass off with foreplay and make her crave you.

Spoiler: Careful, possibly triggering content

Doggystyle with spread legs is great for both of you if you start really slow.
Dont go in right away just go in very very slowly and encourage her by telling her how good it feels for you.
How amazing SHE feels for you in that position. If she is flexible, she can lay on her stomache with her legs spread and you can try that.

But make sure to spend the most amount of the time in the bed with making her feel good long before you enter her.

It will relax her mind and she will more likely be more open to try something new.

 

Hi @ReclaimedLife !

Please consider using the "spoiler alert" function with postings that may include text that could be triggers for some folks. Hit the " + " button on the toolbar and it should take you to the correct tool. (While your post didn't bother me, your above post may not be easy for others to get past !)

Thanks in advance for your help.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Acknowledged and changed. You've got a strong point there.

 

Thank you !

 

May be my cent will help You.
Because Exactly same happened with me when i was married 3 months ago. I was not Ejaculating at all. It was frustating for me and my wife as well. Many fights between Us, But I highly suggest you to be patient about it.
Someone said watch porn after that go in the room. I didnt because I was on P, and i didn't wanted that pathetic thing back in my married life.
I was making daily intercourse on Pills because of PIED, one day i thought lets leave this fukin shit i cant ejaculate so what is the purpose of doing sex, I left everything Kissing, Touching hugging everything for straight 7 days,
After that i did intercourse with my wife and pressurized my vein which is in between testicals and Ass hole. When you presssurize it during intercourse you will feel the whole vein towards the dick head. After 1 minute start thinking that you are about to come even though you are not but just think and think your dick head is going to release it.
And I couldnt believe that i ejaculated within 5 minutes and my wife was surprised that how this miracle happend however that night i couldnt satisfy my wife fully but i learnt alot.
I did the same next day and then next and then i get use to of this.
In three months together i ejaculated 5 times and then she had to go to her parents, so i havnt tried it most recent. But this is how i cured my DE.

So I realized that during masturbation we just do it and it comes off. we are habitual of this. but in real intercourse you have to put some effort, Semen has to come from somewhere and you have to bring it from your veins or testicals i dont know the medical name. Once you learnt it You are good to go.

Hope this will help.

 

Healing never seems to happen as fast as we might like and sometimes, healing doesn't seem as complete as we'd like. Continuing your noPMO journey will allow your body and your mind more time to heal. Yeah, its frustrating that the healing can take a while, but there is damage to be undone and your body and mind must learn to respond to new types and levels of stimulation. If during PMO, you used a "death grip" or other intense types of physical stimulation, it may take longer than 90 days for your body to perform in a relationship. If you are worried that there may be a physical issue, consult a doctor for appropriate tests (for example, are you potentially diabetic ? Low T ?) You will get better. Stay on course. You can do this.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

You've found something to sustain yourself for 114 days without PMO. Remember what those things are that have helped you and focus on those. Also, remind yourself at least every day - more often if you are feeling tempted or weak - of your goals, objectives, and reasons why you are here. When you lose sight of your goals, motivation can weaken and resets and relapses can occur, so don't lose sight of your goals and "why's" !

And You said:

and THAT is a pretty good reason to continue !

Keep going. You can do this.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Hey man, sorry to hear about this struggle. I am sure you are frustrated. I think this could be a mind over matter, but if your wife feels like she would have pain, you may have conditioned yourself to be unconsciously nervous which can make it hard to reach climax.

******warning trigger alert*****

One thing you could try is intercourse for as long as it feels natural, and then pull out and masturbate (Or have her masturbate you) to the point you are about to climax. Then finish with intercourse. If you have a pattern where it’s been hard to ejaculate, you may just need to break that cycle with something different.

 

Dude relax you are getting better day by day. No need to panic the images are fading, probably before the NOFAP streak you didnt feel so good in sex etc? Videogames and Marihuana dont affect you.

After all youre _ONLY_ 4months in and allmost fully cured. Have patience