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Red Hot Thing

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by UncleBarnacle, Sep 12, 2021.

  1. UncleBarnacle

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    There is a woman in my life now who is very young and beautiful. We've known each other 5 years and only just now got together and it's on fire. She got in the car Friday night - we had seen each other since October 2019 -- pulled my face into hers with both hands, said "I fuckin' missed you!" and kissed me like a woman kisses a man, lips, tongue, passion, followed by an explosion of sexual energy racing through me.

    Her other hand went to my Fapstronaut.

    This was at a stop sign. When I looked behind me, finally, there was a very patient other driver who smiled. We laughed and took off for dinner.

    First - dinner across from someone. What a concept. Nice restaurant. What a concept. A woman who offers to pay - what a concept! (She makes really good money. I frankly don't at the moment, though i work full-time doing a variety of different creative things that keep the lights on and live music in the world.)

    Second - jackpot. After all these dates that go nowhere, really, a red hot tomato in my car who is sexually agressive. How flattering is that? Lovely dinner, we fed each other bread and butter and pineapple shrimp wrapped in bacon. Not Cracker Barrell, lol.

    She has issues - don't we all. I am trying to help her with those issues including getting her into rehab because she's got a pretty advanced drinking problem and a beautiful boy a year old from a guy she married and divorced a month later. At our dinner the other night, I noticed a big difference in her cognitive abilities and ability to follow a conversation and this was after 1 martini. (I don't drink. I just fap, ha.)

    i met the kid two nights ago and I'm already crazy about him. I held him for like 10 minutes and not a sound did he make. I told him jokes. I sang to him. He rocks. Looking forward to seeing the young man again...and her.

    I haven't had sex in two years. I have been doing NoFap since March and have whacked off about 6 times since then. It used to be every day, 2-3 times a day sometimes, for years and years. Thank God that's over.

    It is absolutely on fire between me and T and I have no doubt it will end in bed, maybe this week or at least some more hot make-outs. When I type to her on FB (I have not given her my phone number yet because of boundaries. I work with homeless people in my town and since then I don't give out my number.) I smile and get excited. I really like this person despite my complaints and observations. Small doses.

    Dudes, it has been too long. This may end in a car crash, but no jury on earth would convict BoraxKarloff for seeking to be held, kissed and taken to bed for a few hours and doing it with someone who is physically my type, head to toe, the perfect woman.

    "And if you saw my love/You'd love her, too."
     
  2. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Good for you my friend, even do you still look like a teenage romantic. Maybe it's your artistic lifestyle or who you are.

    But try to be more calm about it, even if it works out, she's just a girl.
     
  3. This sounds great, but don't get sucked into trying to fix her. Keep the boundaries strong and good luck!
     
  4. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Even do it's good to congratulate you. If you want a honest feedback.

    1. You fall in love quite easily and are infatuated too much by a girls looks. This can be the porn addict mind in you.

    2. Alcoholic: big red flag. She is trying to be over it, so one can give her a chance, just because she is trying.

    3. She has a kid and is very young, it means poor judgement on her part for picking a couple, impulsiveness. She married and a month later got divorced. It means she can leave you all of the sudden. unpredictable.

    Let's say the father of the kid is a full douche bag it means she chose a douche bag. Not a good thing.

    You are always going to be number two in her life, the kid comes first.
    You are going to spend time and resources on an offspring that is not yours. Your mind doesn't have to only worry about her, but on the kid too. You are a father now.
    If you are cool with it, that's fine.

    4. She doesn't mind spending money on you and you have less money than her. That is really good on her part. Extra points for it.

    What worries me the most is your infatuation, your minds seems like this girl is a goddess, some kind of pride for being with a young attractive girl.
    If things don't turn out this can crush you. Also you being so much into her can turn her off.
     
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  5. UncleBarnacle

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    Fellas, this is bad, I am obsessed, I'm not kidding, this is a car going 100 MPH and I gotta handle it conciously, instead of letting my disease/fetish lead to uncessasary drama, hurt feelings, distractions from work, putting up with what I should not put up with.

    For instance.

    Friday after dinner she wanted a snack on the way home. Stopped, bought. We sat outside, and she ate. A pleasure. Some hugs and soft words, just a nice night. Very relaxed.

    Then she disappeared. 5, 10 minutes. I got to look for her. She was sitting on a bench about 20 feet away talking to someone, then she got up and went in the house.

    I got in my car and drove home. No hard feelings. But I have this thing lately with women I date who don't respect others' time.

    I sent her a FB message when I got home:

    Goodnight. I had a good time. Until you disappeared. I wasn't angry. I was just tired. So I left

    Her reply, the next day:

    I’m sorry! Too much to drink, not enough sleep this week, and waaaaaay past my bed time [​IMG] I’m so sorry. Now I have to go to work [​IMG]


    Part of me just wants to use this broken human. Another part really cares.

    So - publicly -

    I'm gonna work my ass off, as I've been doing. I'm gonna let relationships take #5,6,7 - something one does after work.

    And check in here if you don't mind.
     
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  6. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    There goes the recovery alcoholic, for real you are dating this girl? She is a mess and she does not respect you at all.

    Was the person she was talking a man hitting on her? Still very disrespectful no matter who it was.

    Have some dignity, you can always get another girl, but not your self respect. And the way she answered to your complain just yawning. Bro, I will never talk to that girl ever again.
     
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  7. Get rid of her, its a mistake. If i learned one thing its to never ignore red flags;

    1. "Recovering "alcoholic
    2. Has a kid at a young age
    3. Divorced
    4. Does not respect your time

    All the issues this brings is NOT worth your time! You can't fix her issues. Remember, women DONT change. She is still the little girl that made those bad decisions in the past (kid, marriage, alcohol).
     
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  8. UncleBarnacle

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    Good points, sir. However - "Remember, women don't change." What are you, the go-to guy for all things female? Who elected ya? I didn't vote for ya! Is that you, Hef?

    Just bustin' 'em.

    Look, I am gonna put this where it belongs - not a priority. I am sure there are many, many virgins here who would think someone was crazy to throw away a beautiful woman who plants a big wet kiss on you in your car and starts kneading your banana, when you (I) haven't had sex since August 2019 and haven't been kissed since around that time as well.

    We're just gonna have to control this, like we control our fapping. "Don't let her walk all over ya."

    It's not even about the sex. It is about being touched and adored by someone who really loves you, which is the case here. It's feeling that maybe you're not such a frog after all. People have been saying "Wow, you look really bright!" It's because I am being kissed and held and loved.
     
  9. UncleBarnacle

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    Also, she paid for dinner with a $100 bill.

    She runs her own business and does very well with it. I like successful people.

    "Not so fast, Louie."
     
  10. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    If you use people people will use you.

    You are acting like a desperate man for sex.
    Money, looks, sex are all shallow things to consider for being in a relationship and these are the things you mentioned a lot. And when you talk about who she is there is only bad traits.

    You are selling yourself short. And giving way too much importance to sex
     
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  11. p1n1983

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    Why now? why not before? have you changed?

    This is what woman do when the have high interest in you.

    Yeap.. another sign of interest.

    Woman that have high interest in you and are givers will do this.

    But you are not doing anything about it, if a woman touch my little friend is a fact that we are going to get laid a few hours of minutes later. You missed that oportunity.

    No we don't, i got all my issues fixed. The fact that you have issues is making you accept this woman big issues just because she is hot and you are needy for love.

    Is not your job to fix her. Is hers, it's also your job to fix your own issues in order to start dating people that don't have issues.

    Hugh red flag. Enjoy sex with her and move on. She is not relationship material.

    Oh.. now that she is alone with a baby she is happy to date you.. why not before? you didn't change.. she changed and her need changed to with the baby. Don't be a sucker that raises another mans child. You say you are using her for sex and "love".. she is probably going to use you to take care of his boy.

    Yeap.. more red flags. But because she is hot, you are letting this things go thru.

    Good for you, that's progress.

    It's the man job to make it happen. Don't wait for her to make the move. You are waisting time and opportunities.

    You don't, she have red flags but she is hot and is making you feel loved and that is turning all the alarms your brain is rising about her. she is bad news.. only hookup material. You cannot make good win from bad grapes.

    This will definitevely will end in a car crash like his previous marriage. Just be smarter than the other guy and have fun with her for a while and move on with more healthier woman.

    Instead of finishing the nigth with hot sex with you, she finished it talking to another person. You are just plesured with just a hugh?? she touches your little friend dates back.. but now you are ok with a hugh? I smell friendzone..

    Woman do this to guys that don't respect. She knows she can do this to you and you are still going to be there for her and date her. You will put up with anything she do just to keep having a woman in your life.

    Yes, you were angry and also you apologized to a woman that dissapeared on you. A man that have his shit together will go away and never contact her. She is the one that have to apologyze for his bad behaviour. This is how she know she had you, not matter that she behaves this poorly, you will put up with it. This is not going to end good for you at all.

    Yf eah.. typicall BS. She is not sorry, she just doesn't respect you. If a woman don't respect you, she is not going to love you. And if probably she is going to have sex with guy that are more masculine that you.

    Forget about the word relationship with woman like this, she is just sex material. Not more, she is bad news.

    She doesn't love you at all. She is probably going to use you, you showed her you are weak and she can do whatever she wants with you. YOu are desperate for love and been adored. Needy people get used by woman.. it's the way it is. Woman hate weak needy guys.

    Keep behaving like this and you are going to get burn... and verybody is going to tell you that you look awfull.

    So what? did you have sex? don't be the nice guy that she dates while she bangs the bad boy..
     
  12. UncleBarnacle

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    Good grief, I have never met you. What what on Earth compels you to dissect somebody's post line by line as though they're going to spend a second reading it? I'm actually laughing. Just do me a favor and don't comment on any more of my posts.
     
  13. modern milarepa

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    @BoraxKarloff men from all ages and background saw your situation from an objective point of view.

    You have tried to be many years with this girl and it's hard to let go a beautiful girl also throw out all those years of effort and investment. But she is no good.

    You are just being deaf and blind. Why would we tell you something is not good for you?

    Take sex out of the picture and what good does this girl has to offer you? A 100 dollars dinner? So what, it's just money. Don't let your lust and emotions cloud your thinking.
     

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