Reddit Thread - Divorce

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As usual, reddit experts are more concerned with making catchy "gotchas" for upvotes rather than offering serious advice, or even showing basic empathy. At worst, he's delusional. There's nothing mean spirited in his post to warrant the amount of vitriol from some of those people.

However I do agree with the point most of them are making. Its time for him to accept the loss and focus on improving his own life.

 

Most of the posts make reasonable points. They are primarily responses from females who have been on the receiving end i.e. In a relationship with a porn addict. I feel sorry for the guy, but the posts do shine a light on the hurt that we cause

 

I haven't read the replies yet, only the OP. As a woman who was married to a sex addict. I have no sympathy for him. None. She gave him 12 years of her life. He still has an addicts brain, believing they had an "otherwise good relationship" except for the small and medium fights they had off and on where he "took a break". Yeah, well, what that means is she told him over and over how his addiction was affecting the marriage and instead of him quitting, she just kept finding him breaking promises. Looks like she's done.

 

Was your ex addicted to porn or was he addicted to sex? It really isn't that easy to quit. I'm not saying that she was wrong. In fact, porn addiction is very hard on any romantic relationship at all. It nearly destroyed my relationship with my partner. She had been telling me for two years that I had an addiction but my reasoning was that since I've never heard of porn addiction, it can't be true. Boy was I wrong! When I started researching more in-depth and checked more boxes than I liked, I knew. I didn't tell her I signed up with NoFap (both this forum as well as the subreddit) and began working on the program, I began by doing it on my own with just nofap as my support. After a few weeks, I have told her what I am doing and how much success I have had. Along the way, I found some other habits that no longer served me. Specifically, I was lying a lot to avoid trouble. I don't like that at all. I'm now totally honest and open with my partner, and she asks about my progress every so often. She has psychological problems just like me but I'm determined to lose the porn addiction. My addiction was over 30 years. My partner and I have been together for 13 years. Had I listened to her, I would have started my nofap journey two years ago. I'm now over 60 days no PMO. I fill her in on my progress either when I hit what I consider a milestone or if she asks me for an update. I hide nothing. I lie about nothing. I feel better that way.