Relapse after 5 years

The problem with pmo is that u supply dopamine and other powerful hormones to your brain for free..These hormones needs to be obtained after something that's worth doing..This is not worth it..So put on your guard..Never do it again..Stay motivated.. Exercise..Meditate..Keep yourself busy somehow...Do something fun and enjoyable..Don't fall into temptations..Don't give space for temptations..

 

I'm not married nor do I have gf.. but if I wanted someone to know about this that would be my wife..

 

Don't fall victim to the shame cycle.
Shame loves isolation, this crap thrives on secrecy.

Ok you messed up, you are human, what are you going to do now is the question. What have you learned from the relasp?

If you need someone to hear you more, or to get it off your chest with, pm me.

Best of luck, hang in there.

 

Welcome, thanks for sharing your story..
So.. Your wife doesnt know about your addiction? Like, the past struggle and the current relapse? Well.. My best advice is confession. You need to talk with her about it... Like DON'T KEEP ANYTHING, say it out everything and all the truth about your addiction.. Be honest, sincere, cry out... This gonna save your life and marriage! Idk your story but if she married you without knowing about your addiction then she deserves to know the truth now and
then, after talk to her look for profesional help...
I know I know I make it sound easy.. dude, it took me 15 years to confess to my parents and siblings.. I KNOW ISN'T EASY but you know.. truth will set you free..
So please, confess.. and check this post: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...te-my-dopamine-receptors.166287/#post-1410049 IT HELPED ME A LOT.
One day at a time.
Suerte.

 

I see..
Well.. I really hope you beat the Chaser effect and I think you already know this but I would like to remind you: this addiction grows and is kept hidden, kept secret.... The more you hide it, the more you are tied so I would recommend to tell her about this relapse and also remember AA have week meetings so why would be us not doing the same?
Good luck, God bless you.

 

Hi there.. 155 days sober for me.. How are you doing?! Any update?

 

clubber_99 - the fact that you were able to stay clean for 5 years in itself is an amazing feat. You have been there done that and you can do it again. So stay strong!
Your pmo badge says 200 which means you are already doing amazingly well! Woohoo!

My personal best has been 30 p and 7pmo. So just looking at your steak itself is a true inspiration. Also a stark reminder that anyone can relapse. COVID has been hard on us in various ways, and we have all been challenged mentally, physically and emotionally to an unimaginable extent. So you are doing super good....

 

Congratulations @Clubber_99, you did well to stay clean for so long. Like you, I was viewing pornography and masturbating before I got married.

I totally agree with @MexFighter. I’ve learned from sad experience that hiding my porn addiction / relapses from my wife haven’t benefited me in any way, shape or form. But when I have confessed to her I have been offered more love and support.

So, how’s things now for you?

 

UK here too. Keep up the good work.

 

Wow five yes! That’s quite a achievement! Congratulations on the long run. If it happens again then I would involve my wife but not for one time. It would just ruin her day.
I bet you can go another 5 yrs.