Relapse: Most important time

I think the most important time is just after relapse. What you do after relapse.
What you think after relapse. What you tell yourself after relapse.

All of have been there and all of has have relapsed multiple times. But how do so people take care of themselves and get out of that loop and how do some remain in that loop for a longer time.

What you do after relapse.
You criticize yourself. What the fuck I have fone. I am the most disgusting person. Can't do a single thing in correct manner. EArlier decided that will go for 100 days and fuck.. I can't do even 10... Happy noe.. relieved.. throw two four punches in bed or on wall...

Well that frustration is logical.
We all feel that and we all more or less react in the same way.

First thing is, don't set your goals too high. Thinking high is great and until you think higher you can't raise yourself to that level. But you should be thinking with your capacity.. other wise it's just day dreaming..
I can become a space scientist.. can't I. But I cant become a space scientist in 1year.. I have reach smaller goals and slowly move towards bigger goal.

Similarly, on the day one you shouldn't be thinking of 100days when you have a history of relapsing in 3-7- or 10 days..
Well you can counter this as well that y can't I think of 100 days in a go and I'll show it to you.
I'll be happy to see if you start and reach at 200 day in firSt attempt.
The way is , by not criticising yourself. If you relapsed then don't just think of starting it again from the very next moment.
Think that why you couldn't do it. Analyse it. In this period, I actually kept all thoughts away or I was thinking the whole time about sex and just didn't fapped. Think in a calm way and congratulate yourself that ok at least it's better than last time.
Give yorself some time. Don't leave yourself helpless. Plan that this time I am not going to think of sex. Whenever I get a thought I am going to solve a sudoku puzzle.. or I am going to do 10 push ups l, or I am going to write one page about my feelings..
A sense of achievement is really necessary. If you do this you'll focus more on push ups rather than controlling the urge. You'll think of solving sudoku in less time than previous rather than thinking of sex.. and Everytime you'll have sense of accomplishment.

Be calm and treat yourself as if you have treated your friend who is under depression.

I am on day 23 and I am telling you that after infinite relapses I have reached there and this time it's way much calm. I didn't even got a thought of watching porn. Even in Google news feed I see some sexy celebraty . I just skip the news.. try it out. This time approach with a patient , calmer, and encouraging way.