Interesting what
@SREENII writes. I am not health expert, indeed...
As to the very low libido, did you consider falt line? I have read here some Fapstromates described it came to them in 40-60days and lasted for several weaks.
As to have or have not sex with your partner I cannot give any advices since I did not get that far as you did. Anyway, I would speak to her if you can. They say that there is no point in having sex if either of you do not enjoy it during your reboot, especially. And I would agree that the point is to discover your natural sexuality for you, which has been lost due to the addiction. They also advocate Karezza a lot here.
I do not have sexual activities with my wife now as our relationship got too "corrupted" so we do not feel like this. Anyway, I made an agreement with her that even if she becomes ready for having sex, I would like to finish 90 days hard mode and she willingly agreed. It is important for me to put clear milestones for me and require myself to keep them. I think we will start with less sexually-explicit activities first (like cuddling not naked for example) to build up our sexual life from the beginning again. As now, it is only occasional touches or kisses and either of us do not want to go further yet, although my libido would dictate me the opposite...
ps: Did you manage oral sex without O? HUH, I cant imagine!