Relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Kingler, Aug 1, 2020.

  1. Kingler

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    I have relapsed almost 15 times. My highest streak is 13 days. Will You Please Help Me By Giving Me Some Tips, I'll be grateful to you. I relapsed today after 4 days. I'm re-starting.


    Thank You
     
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  2. Asdor22

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    Workoutin, meditation and going out with friends seem to work best for me. Wish you luck!
     
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  3. Kingler

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    Thank You
     
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  4. Asdor22

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    anytime :)
     
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  5. Kingler

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    BTW Can You Tell Me What To Do When I Get A Really Strong Urge To PMO?? I disable the filter and I relapse. I'm fed off of doing this. Can You Share Some More Tips??

    Thanks In Advance, I Will Be Always Grateful To You.
     
  6. runner0424

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    I relapsed twice after 6 months or so from porn each time. I’m currently 5 months and 2 and half weeks or so free from that relapse.

    I have learned a lot in my struggle with porn. One, is what triggers me. A lot on the internet and tv triggered me(seeing beautiful women). I believe my last relapse was super bowl halftime show, I didn’t relapse that night, but like a week or two after it, but those images stayed with me and I kept wanting more, even after 6 months.

    I also researched And watched videos of the science behind it all and it releases dopamine In your brain and scary how the addiction can become when I thought I could control it.

    the ways I feel like I have conquered it for good was that I had my wife put in an adult filter password that I don’t know what it is(it could be a friend if not married). It’s my backup plan when having a bad day and can’t see the adult sites. I also don’t watch shows that could trigger me and try to turn my head if I think a scene is coming. More importantly though, I have really grown in my faith with God. I have listened to so many sermons on temptations and that has helped me tremendously. Rick Warren and Greg Laurie are 2 of my favorites and have helped me a ton!! I learned about all the garbage I was putting in my mind. The analogy was how we have to watch what we eat, we can’t eat McDonald’s fried food every meal without bad consequences, the same thing applies with what you consistently put in your mind.

    Hopefully this helps and try and learn as much as possible and avoid whatever gets you tempted and triggered. Get going on another streak and make it a lifestyle change and don’t beat yourself up if you have a relapse. Just learn from it and keep trying. I hope this helps.
     
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  7. Kingler

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    Thabk
    Thank You A Lot, This Time I'll Try My Best.
     
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  8. Smoky

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    You have to fight the root of the problem. When you try to get distracted to "forget" urges, you are not doing anything. After you finish doing the activity, you will feel the same. That's why you've relapsed 15 times. My advice for you is simple. Say to yourself that you will NOT masturbate nor watch porn. You have to feel it. Say it to yourself everyday. I do not care if you are dying to touch your penis. Don't.
    You need to be strong one single month. Just one. Then, the urges get better.

    But there is something important you need to know. Everytime you relapse makes it easier for the next one. So stop. STOP.
    I know is extremely hard, but the person you are about to become is that great, that you would do everything to achieve it.
     
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  9. Kingler

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    Thank You A Lot Bro, You Ignited The Flame Inside Me. This Time I'm Not Gonna Fap.
     
  10. thikk

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    I think there is some good advice here, you say that you are filters etc. But the bottom line is you're putting yourself in situations where you can assess pmo and try to use willpower to stop. That won't work, especially when you're starting off and the urges are still strong. Stay with people all the time, get someone to password protect your devices... basically physically prevent yourself from being able to access porn. The first month will be difficult but you then need to try to hold on as long as you can... In this period you'll probably peak or masturbate without p etc. Many people try to find their loopholes but try to stay as truely clean as possible. Then the urges for pmo will gradually get weaker as you do more streaks.
     
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  11. Kingler

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    Thanks For The Suggestion, I'm definitely gonna give a try to these.
     
  12. Asdor22

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    Hey man, sorry for my late response. I tend to do something calming, like reading book or meditating. Maybe you should go on and listen to "Your Brain on Porn" on audible. Helped me a lot :)
     
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  13. Kingler

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    Bro All The Replies That Have Been Posted Here, Keeps Lighting A Flame Inside Me. Thanks For The Help. I'm Sure This Time I'll Win. BTW From Which Country Are You From??
     
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  14. Asdor22

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    Slovakia, wbu? :)
     
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  15. Kingler

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    Wow, Slovakia That's really a beautiful country. I wish one day I'll get a chance to visit. BTW I'm From India.
     
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  16. Asdor22

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    india is also great country :)
     
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  17. jtd70

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    I think it’s really individual to each person what causes the relapse.

    try remembering when you relapsed before and what you doing at the time / how you were feeling / what had you done that day etc. You might find patterns and discover what I’d triggering your relapses.

    hope that helps
     
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  18. Kingler

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    :):):):)
     
    Last edited: Aug 4, 2020
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  19. Kingler

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    THANKS, This'll help me a lot.
     
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  20. FutureKing

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    You need to get past the initial intense urges phase. If you keep relapsing early you will be stuck in the cycle. Urges do blunt over time, and become very controllable. For me the last 50 days have been far easier then the first 15. If you can break 15 days, you can make it to 50 days.
     
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