Relapsed 3 times today

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Hello everyone! Today I just relapsed again I am sick of this I can't do this anymore, what is wrong with me? Here is my story: I started fapping at around 13 years old and I fapped every since now( I am 18 years old). It started with normal vanilla stuff then I think after 5 month I started getting into more extreme stuff (femdom related).
At the age of 17 I managed to do 250 days of NoFap but saddly I relapsed last year on November and since then I can't make it past 10-15 days, I am just sick of this, everytime I relapse I think how can I find these extreme disgusting stuff pleasurable.
I am just sick of this, today I replased again 3 times after 14 days I think. I don't even want to hear about it for the rest of my life. I don't want sex and I don't want porn. I am sick, I feel so so bad, it's like I am getting nowhere with my life, I just hate myself now beacuse in reality I would not like to experience any extreme stuff that I watch or any sex for that matter. Can everyone help me please with some ideas with what should I do to get over this finally? Thank you very much! Have a great day/night everyone!

 

[Diego2080]

The only advice is always remember that you’re a MAN , a man is strong , so don’t let the urges control you , fight them and say No to urself, and remember that your dick is made to pee and have sex to creat another human it’s not for busting nuts everyday , this is wrong , ur hands they not made to masturbate they made to work and write and help others , you eyes made to see the beauty of this life and this big planet not to look at what’s going on inside the toilets and the dirty porn . Be a man and challenge yourself and all that sexual desires, don’t look at woman and don’t watch social media , you a Man U know ur worth so no one else will tell u who u are , good luck

 

[VagabondaHugh]

The fact that you say you don't want to experience any sex is an indication for how strongly you are addicted to porn. Thats what happens to porn addicts. They don't even WANT real sex. Because porn replaces your sex drive with porn drive. Instead of being horny for sex and chasing girls, you are horny for porn and chasing pixels.

A healthy man desires sex. All the fucking time. And you will want it too, after you get rid of the porn demon. Because trust me. Porn doesn't even come close to how real sex and actual connection will make you feel. It's sinply not a good trade.

 

[Deleted Account]

The only advice is always remember that you’re a MAN , a man is strong , so don’t let the urges control you , fight them and say No to urself, and remember that your dick is made to pee and have sex to creat another human it’s not for busting nuts everyday , this is wrong , ur hands they not made to masturbate they made to work and write and help others , you eyes made to see the beauty of this life and this big planet not to look at what’s going on inside the toilets and the dirty porn . Be a man and challenge yourself and all that sexual desires, don’t look at woman and don’t watch social media , you a Man U know ur worth so no one else will tell u who u are , good luck

Thank you very much for these beautiful words! I will keep that in my mind! I will win this fight! Have a great day/night!

 

[Deleted Account]

The fact that you say you don't want to experience any sex is an indication for how strongly you are addicted to porn. Thats what happens to porn addicts. They don't even WANT real sex. Because porn replaces your sex drive with porn drive. Instead of being horny for sex and chasing girls, you are horny for porn and chasing pixels.

A healthy man desires sex. All the fucking time. And you will want it too, after you get rid of the porn demon. Because trust me. Porn doesn't even come close to how real sex and actual connection will make you feel. It's sinply not a good trade.

Thank you very much for your reply! No no, I really don't want sex, I wasn't interested in sex when I first started to look at it and I wasn't interested neither when I had 250 days of NoFap, I was always more lonely beacuse I am an introvert and I like it this way, I guess I watched porn beacuse it gave me that pleasure and was taking away my stress and anxiety.
Have a great day/night!

 

[VagabondaHugh]

Thank you very much for your reply! No no, I really don't want sex, I wasn't interested in sex when I first started to look at it and I wasn't interested neither when I had 250 days of NoFap, I was always more lonely beacuse I am an introvert and I like it this way, I guess I watched porn beacuse it gave me that pleasure and was taking away my stress and anxiety.
Have a great day/night!

Well if you watch porn that means there is a sex drive there somewhere homie. Asexuals are not turned on by porn, its scientifically proven, actually one of the tests. Introverted does not equal not having sex. Maybe you don't wanna have sex, or you convince yourself you don't want or need it, because you're scared of something. Just something to think about

 

[Deleted Account]

Well if you watch porn that means there is a sex drive there somewhere homie. Asexuals are not turned on by porn, its scientifically proven, actually one of the tests. Introverted does not equal not having sex. Maybe you don't wanna have sex, or you convince yourself you don't want or need it, because you're scared of something. Just something to think about

Well, I don't know, but right now I don't need a girlfriend for example, I just want to get over porn and keep working towards my dreams and goals. I appreciate your reply! Good luck achieving your dreams!

 

[Mistakesweremade]

Technically, you cannot relapse 3 times in a day. Unless, you include the 2 times as a relapse within a day.

 

[Icewarrior]

Hello everyone! Today I just relapsed again I am sick of this I can't do this anymore, what is wrong with me? Here is my story: I started fapping at around 13 years old and I fapped every since now( I am 18 years old). It started with normal vanilla stuff then I think after 5 month I started getting into more extreme stuff (femdom related).
At the age of 17 I managed to do 250 days of NoFap but saddly I relapsed last year on November and since then I can't make it past 10-15 days, I am just sick of this, everytime I relapse I think how can I find these extreme disgusting stuff pleasurable.
I am just sick of this, today I replased again 3 times after 14 days I think. I don't even want to hear about it for the rest of my life. I don't want sex and I don't want porn. I am sick, I feel so so bad, it's like I am getting nowhere with my life, I just hate myself now beacuse in reality I would not like to experience any extreme stuff that I watch or any sex for that matter. Can everyone help me please with some ideas with what should I do to get over this finally? Thank you very much! Have a great day/night everyone!

We “relapse “ because we are identified with a low level of being and naturally wish to experience a higher level. Pmo does that for us temporarily, but of course it doesn’t deal with the core issues, and ends up dragging us even further down.
So, what to do? We need to raise our level of being.
How? Well, a start is the transmutation of negative emotions.

 

[Icewarrior]

So, wouldn’t you like to know how to transmute negative emotions?

 

[Coub]

Well if you watch porn that means there is a sex drive there somewhere homie. Asexuals are not turned on by porn, its scientifically proven, actually one of the tests. Introverted does not equal not having sex. Maybe you don't wanna have sex, or you convince yourself you don't want or need it, because you're scared of something. Just something to think about

I totally agree with @VagabondaHugh . Your temperament(introvertism) has nothing to do about sex drive. 10-15 days is exactly when inner sex tensions increase significantly and your body/brain demand activity. If you've done 250 days of hardcore run then you should be cured for good basically. It's almost impossible to maintain clean forever and this is what you are looking for, correct me if I'm wrong. A healthy man will always be sexually attracted sooner or later.

Just look at this:


Reproduction is, according to Maslow's hierarchy at the same level as air, water, food, shelter, sleep, clothing. It's extremely primitive instinct. How can you live without air?

NoFap community was never meant to be created to fight against M, in general. If you won't have satisfying sexual life with partner or you M(it's always riskier), it's likely that you will come back to addiction and bad habits. Only if you are fully aware of your sexual tension relief method(whether it's MO or sex), you're healthy.

You might not want it but you need it.