Relapsed at day 21. Gutted :(

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by A new me !, Mar 14, 2015.

  1. A new me !

    A new me ! Fapstronaut

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    Totally gutted !!! Made it to day 21 and relapse hit hard. Fapped three times in about 2 hours, it felt like I was like a crack addict binging. I'm so disappointed :( I really need some help giving this shit up.
     
  2. PrevCDM

    PrevCDM Guest

    I know it's not a great feeling. Can you divulge what made you trigger? Looking back, were there some exit points you could have elected to take?

    The most important part is being honest, learning from your mishap, and bouncing back as quickly as possible.
     
  3. kitty fukr

    kitty fukr Banned

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    He's right bro just use the force of the kick-back to power through your goal
     
  4. Ics2000

    Ics2000 Fapstronaut

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    You've done it now and can move forward. Don't dwell on the disappointment; that is now your new energy to move forward again. Learn from this and you'll be twice as strong this time!
     
  5. CecilBRollin

    CecilBRollin Fapstronaut

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    It was the same thing for me. 21 days and lost it.

    But look at it this way: You made it 21 days. Congrats! Now you have a target to beat. As do I.
     
  6. A new me !

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    The reason I relapsed was I felt horny, the wife went to bed and I stayed up. I wish I had just gone to bed with her, I remember thinking "just go to bed" but I gave into the urge:( going to try again though this time longer than 21 days. Think I should get a partner as I could have messaged him maybe.
     
  7. PrevCDM

    PrevCDM Guest

    You found the trigger, though! Staying up late and by yourself, gave your brain the rationalized open-door to self sabotage. Be smarter than that brain of yours. It's fighting for its fix. You gained insight from this reset, and you will use the bounce-back to get back into the saddle. High five man. Now time to take it again day by day, and not be so hard on yourself that you allow the brain a reason to justify stopping this process again.. No need.. not if you know why it is you are breaking the PMO cycle.
     
  8. Collin-Eades

    Collin-Eades Fapstronaut

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    Hey man don't let it get to you! I think you're on to something when you say you should get a partner or at least someone in real life who will keep you accountable. I'm assuming that's what you meant? I know for me that's been super helpful. Not only for encouragement when I'm fighting the battle but for encouragement when I've just lost one as well.
     
  9. A new me !

    A new me ! Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your supportive words guys. I am going to get straight back on it. Think this time rather than just thinking 90 days will be easy I am just going to get past my last record which now is 21. Hopefully this time will be better and like u say I have found a trigger.
     
  10. M123

    M123 Fapstronaut

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    not sad bro 21 day is great streak
     
  11. Breaking Fap

    Breaking Fap Fapstronaut

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    It's normal. Keep diggin. What you are trying to do, is something very difficult. YOu proove your self-assertation toward the pornography flushing media and hedonistic society.

    Did you also experience a flatline inbetween?
     

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