Relapsed on 16th day of NoFap. Need Advice.

You will keep getting a few days in until you relapse. Until you truly start putting work into recovery. Start being curious on why and what led you to porn in the first place. How old were you ? Is there anything in your past that was difficult? It's not enough to just say " I quit " you truly have to start digging up the past and discovering where it starts. Your porn use is just the symptom of something else . Maybe past trauma ? Addiction In your family already ? Somewhere down the line , you found porn and it made you feel good, safe or even numb . You have to go back, and find healthier ways to cope. You have to truly learn how that addictive voice talks to you. You need to learn about the things that trigger you . What your high risk situations are etc. Is there a 12 step group around your area ? I highly recommend that as well !

 

i would reset the clock.. but i know others would disagree. your benefits shouldn't go anywhere though. unless you start bingeing

 

My advice is throw out the day counter and keep on going, who cares if you relapsed, what matters is you keep on freaking going do not let a bump on the road stop you from going where you need to go, sure that bump will cause some damage but it will not keep you from getting to your destination.

 

Yes, reset it. You aimed for 15 days clean, and you made it. That means that you completed your first nofap challenge. If you want to go longer or if you even want to take porn out of your life for good, then start studying your patterns:

-What led you to PMO?
-Did you have any specific thoughts prior to feel trigger?
-Were you in a specific situation that trigger you?

Your answers don't need to be related to sex, other stuff like stressful situations or anxiety might be the things that trigger you to PMO.

Hope that helps.

 

thats what i did. cant count the days. makes me obsessed and i can't focus om anything else.

 

Exactly people go crazy over that day counter.

 

yuup, im speaking from personal experience. i can understand why someone would want to count the days and keep track, not judging those people. i just do what works for me..

 

that's the best thing we can do, find what works and stick with it.