Relapsed today after 34 days. What should I do?

[Determinedbeing]

Hi all,

I am 28 y/o male, no girlfriend (don't need one now), passionate about my work. For personal reasons, I want to quit masturbation for good. Twice or thrice a week is what I used to masturbate on a regular basis while watching some cam shows or soft porn.

I had been on a hard mode NoFap for the past 34 days. However, today I lost to my urges, watched few soft porn videos and masturbated thrice successively to completion. I feel so let down. How do I proceed next? Last month had been amazing, but for the past few days I have been feeling insanely horny at random moments. I want to quit masturbation for good. And I am going to refrain from any such activity from this very moment. How to keep the will power up during the tempting moments (particularly after a month of no fapping) ?? Please help!

 

[Deleted Account]

I know it's different for everyone, but a friend of mine (who had just relapsed at the time) once said "Do not rely on willpower and willpower alone to get you through.".. To me this meant to:

Become Accountable (talk to others around here, write in a Journal -- either in real-life or on here --, be honest when you're having urges, etc).
To combat the Triggering elements (TV shows, movies, even thoughts in your head) before they become Urges.
To slowly build discipline, by having reasons more powerful than the urges to continue forwards.
To do what's necessary to stop the urges (cold showers, distraction, breathing, turning off all devices, etc)

You made it 34 days, that's great! This time: Set up your foundations, learn from your mistakes, realize what triggers you, and keep trying! You can do this!

Keep strong,
LS

 

[D . J .]

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you.

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips to help you along your journey.

 

[LoyalKnight]

Just get back to the road! It may be hard, I know it. I was the same. I lost a really long streak and I was simply afraid that I could not live without relapsing at a point. The essential knowledge here is to fight and get back up, you are always a winner when you stand back up and fight. If you stay at the ground and give in (PMOing in that case), then you lost.

We are always here for you brother, stay strong!