Relapses help you succeed!

Those who are serious about NoFap and conquering this awful and disgusting, mind body and soul sucking habit.

I've been doing NoFap for a couple years now. I've had a few (maybe 3) relapses in 2 years and heres what I've learned.

- A relapse absolutely IS NOT a fail and no you are not starting over after you relapse. You see, once you have gotten on a good streak 2 to 6 months and you relapse it's ok. You have built 3 months of abstinence, 3 months (or however long your streak was) worth of rewiring, coping ability, enduring, figuring things out. So no a relapse doesn't mean a fail, you are actually healing. What's failing is going back to binging without control, that is a fail. When you relapse assess why, what you felt, what triggered you and what you could have done to avoid it for the next time. Also, this will kick you in the ass and it will remind you of how sick you are and how weak you are and how much injustice you have done to yourself. Use this as the gasoline to fuel your incentive.

- Get out of your head!!! I'm serious fellas, get out of your head. Trust me on this. When we embark on abstaining and string together long droughts we are going to worry. Flatlining sucks bad, I know but what's making it worse is thinking about your d*ck, or am I healing, or having sex, or "will I be normal again", or "will I have a a good sex life again". Dont do this to yourself. Stop thinking about NoFap and your symptoms. The most productive time of my journey and what propelled me further was not thinking about it at all. I truly feel that mulling over it, thinking about it, getting down and depressed about it holds you back from rewiring. When the mind is empty from this crap then I feel true homeostasis will commence.

- Being with a partner is good. Some have their views on total abstinence but wiring yourself to the real thing (IMO) is essential.


-The journey doesn't truly end and the fight is continuous. Remember if you are on these forums you are likely an addict, you have been wired to synthetic garbage your entire life, thus you are here because you know what your doing is wrong and you physically,mentally and emotionally have been broken. Some of you have a looooong and grueling uphill battle ahead of you and you will be tested beyond your imagination but the rewards are plenty and well worth it.

- There is no magic pill. Just like getting a muscular body takes a lot of time, struggle and effort. Getting a degree takes a lot of time, struggle and effort and virtually anything in this life worth anything takes time, struggle and effort this is no different. This will tax you mentally and physically, it will weigh on your psyche, it will disturb your peace. For some of you who have been on this for 20yrs or more, it will take every last drop of ambition, consistency and endurance to stay steadfast and I wish you all the very best.

- REWARDS!! Yes there is benefit and reward, too many to count them all. I'm sure you've heard them.

• Mental clarity
• focus
• energy
• better sleep (Can feel rested off of little sleep)
• confidence
• More alpha
• deeper voice
• normal fluctuating testosterone
• hormonal regularity

All of these are true but one thing that I say I've noticed the most is the ability to handle stress better. To me this is a huge one for me. Because I have been under a lot of pressure abstaining and bouts of massive frustration, patience, battling, mood swings, irritability I've experience in my refraining from PMO over these last 2yrs, a lot of that stress has settled and now, I do feel I have a forcefield. An inner strength and patience that I didn't know existed. A certain inner grit I have now to deal with problems head on as opposed to "wacking" my problems away.

- Lastly. Nothing, and I mean nothing is going to be more of a boost, crutch or helper to you then beating and controlling this. We are all looking for an edge in life. We all wanna be successful, have peace, enjoy our lives. Before you think of pursing a dream or goal. Look to making this the focal point of your life (beating and controlling NoFap) because doing this will catapult you and set you up and give you the inner tools you will need for the rest of your life. I only wish I knew years ago how important this was.