Relationship with a prostitute

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by LK1, Oct 26, 2019.

  1. LK1

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    So after a long NoFap/porn streak of over 3-4 months (I lost count) I find myself in a strange situation

    When I was on vacation in september I relapsed on escorts and met one or two, while on vacation I got talking to one escort over whatsapp and we really hit it off. I never actually paid her any money because she was in a different city when I contacted her but we talked every day for over a month and afterwards we decided to meet

    I ended up going out to meet her, we spent 4 days together and had a really great time. I did not pay her a penny for her time and she treated me like a king..

    My mind is telling me to remove myself from the situation. But i've got another trip with her booked very soon and we will spend 5 days together, I'm just seeking some opinions and thought this would be a good place to ask and see if anyone has been in a similar situation
     
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  2. Anubis Rises

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    the real question yo should be asking your self is,once things get serious, and you introduce her to family at dinner time are we all prepared for the reactions when the family ask her what she does for work , i imagine it would be like dating a porn star , congratulations you went from beating off to a porn actress to dating one
     
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  3. LK1

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    Thank you for the reality check lol
     
  4. Wugazi32

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    You didn't pay her a penny, technically not a prostitute then...you hit off, could be the start of something good! See how it goes, I'm a firm believer in happy endings (no pun!)

    Have you seen the film PRETTY WOMAN?
     
  5. Ghost79

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    I had that too some years ago and dated a prostitute from Ukraine. We really liked each other, but she broke my heart. They can change from day to night, so beware.
     
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  6. alexg1709

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    I have to agree with this.

    She might not be after your money for a session or two she might have a long term plan. Be very careful with this it could seriously backfire
     
  7. You_ll_succed_for_sure

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    Do this.

    This relationship will KILL you, because she's an escort, so she don't have the "wife" mindset: meaning may have another relationship will someone else because of the sexual pleasure, so please be careful.

    I had this with some one, years ago. It can break you, you have no idea, then you can fall in PMO because of depression. Be careful.

    So please, say no, and keep doing your no PMO. You deserve a better women.

    Be strong.
     
  8. ultrafabber

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    But who paid for the trips/rooms etc? Was it 50/50?
     
  9. Homelander

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    I don't see your fun date be any different than picking up a slutty girl from a bar.
    You both enjoyed yourself, just watch out not to fall in love.
    As long as you stay away from porn, all is well
     
  10. Homelander

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    How can this be relevant?
    Most men pay for all the costs of a date, escort or no escort.
     
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  11. Ghost79

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    In some countries it's normal for the man and woman to split the bill.
     
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  12. Get_It

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    Some gents have all the luck, hooking up with a Hooker when she's off the clock. Chad mothafuckers.:D
     
  13. Homelander

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    Yes of course and I myself do a split when I had a bad date and know I wont be seeying her again.
    But still, how is this question relevant regarding LK1's date?
     
  14. LK1

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    It's hardly a session or two we spent 4 days together but this is always in the back of my mind I'm redpill and understand female nature but she seems very genuine. She has only been doing sex work since June 2019 and is fairly new to the game. Being a woman that is used to extracting money from men she naturally tried to test me early on and ask me to borrow 300 euros which I declined and made it clear that I'm not a john and I have and will never send a woman I'm dating money like that.

    She paid for the room on our first trip, also cooked me food every single day and treated me with the kind hospitality that no woman has ever done before. She invited me over to see her for her birthday so naturally I treated her and paid for our nights out, meals and taxi's.. something I'm happy to do.. and I'm sure most guys would too if they had the chance to spend 4 days with a hot Brazilian girl lol

    One negative though is that two days ago I was feeling quite paranoid and sexually frustrated, so I decided to fap.. it only lasted about two minutes and was the first time I've masturbated since around June I think. I didn't think of porn or any previous bad sexual behaviours I have taken part in and it actually felt healthy and cleared my mind of all the negative things I was thinking about the time.

    Also another bad thing about this is that my mind is on prostitution and escorting more than it was before because of the woman I'm close to.. but at the same time getting close to a woman who does sex work has put me off visiting hookers, because I see her as a human being and not a piece of meat and I see how much she has to suffer by doing the work just to earn some cash.
     
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  15. LK1

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    Thank you for the advice man I'm definitely very skeptical about the whole situation

    For now I give her the benefit of the doubt. She is in debt and taking 4-5 days out of her work schedule just to spend time with me so unless some red flags start popping up soon then I will give her a chance like I would any other woman.

    There is definitely potential for feelings to get hurt, I've actually tried to distance myself from her but she has cried and begged me each time to have patience and give her a chance. I can walk away at anytime so I might as well enjoy the ride while it lasts, she's also helping me learn a new language too, which is another cool bonus

    It's nice to hear some other opinions though, thanks boys
     
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  16. alexg1709

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    Can you even trust this girl?

    How do you know she's been doing this only since June.

    Prostitutes can hussle beyond your imagination. Like I said she might see you as a long distance prize.

    Brazil is a poor place with many girls seeking financial support to escape.

    This could be the pretty woman scenario but somehow I really doubt it
     
  17. LK1

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    She is open with me, she has a book of accounts that she has kept since she started working and has shown me it obviously she could be lying but judging by her mental state I cannot imagine her doing this job for a long time she is very fragile. She also has only a 3 month visa in the country that I met her and has overstayed it.

    I don't trust any woman. Who said I trust her, I'm just enjoying her company.. tell me the worst that can happen? she asks me for money? I say no... she asks me for a visa? I say no

    Not all prostitutes are the same, this one might be a rare gem that isn't cold. But I'll always be skeptical about everything and she knows this damn well by now, I'm no pushover and have grilled her to the point of tears a few times now. I will keep this thread updated with progress lol
     
  18. ultrafabber

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    He said he didn't pay her anything to go out.

    Paying for dates, especially big payments like ticket, rooms etc is paying her.

    Most women would not accept this and would split the bill, at least in the countries that have some common sense and decency.
     
  19. SuperPowers

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    She's still a human being, it's just a job and It doesn't make her a bad person, but if she does it to support a drug habit, she needs help. That's pretty much it, life's not made to be easy but you could hook and make easy money.

    Edit: Having said that, don't be taken for a fool. Be careful, an know she would have issues, as all girls do. some just love sex, others have no ther option, other make big money working in high class brothels. Either way I don't think they're on the right path. Be careful, I wouldn't get involved and remember the song, "don't save her, she don't wanna be saved"
     
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  20. porsche4life

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    Not surprised I know how Ukrainian girls are like. They're gold diggers because their country is so poor.
     

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