This bothers me that he said that about you throwing it in his face. Uh, no. He did all those things you listed, while married to you, you have every right to be upset and want to talk through it. I've told my husband before that I worry that in the future he is going to get tired of hearing about all this and talking about it and his response was that he has no right to get upset because he caused it all and he has to deal with it now, however much and however long it takes. I have read that it takes 2-5 years to heal from infidelity, and that is if the partner is doing everything right. I think your timeline of healing should be custom to you, and 60 days is not nearly long enough. I think that is really unrealistic. This is such an amazing way to put it, and so true! Way better than the way I put it to my husband last night, which is that I have pictured all our memories and him jacking off all over them, staining them. Yeah, not one of my finer moments, but seriously that is how I feel sometimes. I'm glad he did. I hope he realizes this is super hard for you do deal with, all the things he put you through that you didn't ask for. It is hard for them, but that doesn't mean they can't be sympathetic to us.