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Respecting women

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by matsantos, Jul 8, 2017.

  1. matsantos

    matsantos New Fapstronaut

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    I am curious to know how do we men learn to respect women and learn to appreciate them for what they are rather than just imagine things that are not respectful to woman. And how can we still talk to them while we recover because our natural behavior is to simply attract to women but how can we in a more mature way?
     
  2. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    - Practice maintaining eye contact.

    - Stop yourself when you realize you're ogling.

    - Listen to women's podcasts. It will help you to learn to listen to an appreciate a woman's point of view. You also can't interrupt and shut down the opinion on a podcast.

    - Change your mentality from "what they are" to "who they are"
     
  3. What podcasts are you talking about? Something like Woman's Hour (BBC Radio 4)?
     
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  4. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    So I imagine that might work. I started listening to a podcast, "Among the Lilies" by Cameron Fradd which is about the life of a Catholic woman; she interviews people on topics like motherhood, being a good wife, and general womanhood. I picked it up because her husband is Matt Fradd, and he's a great Catholic-based anti-porn speaker. Her podcast isn't Catholic Apologetics or anything, rather it's just kind of open discussion of life issues from a woman who happens to be Catholic. That being said, obviously it's not for everyone.

    I'll check out Woman's Hour. (Looking at the headlines and descriptions of the podcasts on Woman's Hour, yeah, it's exactly like that.)
     
  5. Millenial

    Millenial Fapstronaut

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    In 2017, not watching P is already a demonstration of respect to women.
    ( Yes, it is sad that is the case but still true ). So far it is working well for me.. I am beginning to see women as people again, rather than just 'bodies'.

    Also it is interesting to think about how men and women's personalities compliment one another.. they really are the 'yin and the yang' and that fusion should be celebrated and nurtured. There is far more going on than just physical stuff.
     
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  6. Iaroslava

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    In my opinion, women and men don't "complement" each other but are individual humans before being differentiated by their gender. The gender is a social construction and genital differences don't interfere with anything else than reproduction. This is why "socializing with women" don't make much sense for example, as if they would be part of another specie : consider individuals that you identify as women, as you consider men, as humans.
    What we define as "masculine" and "feminine" behaviors do not define us. We all have a story, events and people that impacted our lives, dreams, fears, skills, tastes. No matter our gender, nationality, sexual orientation, skin or hair color, diseases that we are facing.

    Maybe it can seem to you a bit off-topic yet, but it is actually the key to understand how to respect your fellow humans. Respect them as much as you want their respect.
     
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  7. samnf1990

    samnf1990 Fapstronaut

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    Love the podcast suggestion. Ted talks etc on youtube too.
     
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  8. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    Ted talks can be good, but if you can catch more amateur discussions by and for women, I feel like those are more authentic and realistic and will broaden your mind more.
     
  9. GG2002

    GG2002 Fapstronaut

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    I'm female and I suggest trying to develop friendships with women. Not women you want to sleep with, women that you have no sexual attraction to at all. Opposite sex friends teach us so much about how to interact. For you having female friendship may help you see women for less than a sex object. Really just being around women in a non sexual environment can help. Do you have close female relatives? If so get to know them. I would also suggest volunteering for a charity that supports women's issues.
     
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