Hi, everyone. Husband (26 years old) is allegedly (I say allegedly because I have no way of knowing if that is the case or not, it’s just based off what he tells me) 3 months into no PMO. We had talked about doing a 90 day reboot before, but it would include zero PM, allowing him only to orgasm or be sexual with me. Well, it didn’t go very well because while he maintained that he did not PM during that time, we weren’t able to really have sex successfully. He has no drive, as well as a very weak erection. When we do attempt sex, he often cannot keep an erection long enough to get through it and if he can- the entire sexual experience is spent on both of us worrying about getting it done fast enough for his erection to last. So, it’s kind of a shit show. When he lost his erection again for the first time after not having sex for many weeks, (and me very much looking forward to sex because he’d allegedly stopped PMO and was supposed to be improving in many ways) I just burst into tears. I couldn’t control my emotions and I was SO. FUCKING. TIRED. Of that being the extent of my sex life from 19-26 years old. It hurt so bad. When I ask him about why there hasn’t been any improvement in 3 months of therapy, meetings and no PMO, he says that A: he is probably flatlining, B: he is “getting used to being turned on by me” (I love that one, makes me feel like a supermodel...) and C: he’s nervous about losing his erection so it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Anyway... so I personally am deeply suspicious that he is still PMO, or at least MO, because I simply don’t buy that a 26 year old man, without any sexual activity for such a long time, would be unresponsive to an attractive naked woman wanting to have sex with him. But, unfortunately, I can’t prove anything. Ghostwriter gave me an idea to try the 90 day reboot with zero sexual activity at all between us. He said this would allow me to have a clearer idea, without a doubt, that he is or is not still PMO based on what happens at the end of that 90 days. And I think he’s absolutely right about that and that it’s a great idea. It’s gonna be hard as hell for me because I get super cranky after 1 week of no action but it’ll be worth it in the long run, for me to have some clarity in this fucked up situation of constant paranoia, confusion, not knowing what’s real and what’s a lie... So, anyway, I told husband that that’s what we need to do (didn’t tell him why) and he said okay. So that’s my update. Feel free to comment if you have a comment or question.