Restoring Trust in my marriage

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IrrevocableTrust

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1. For years, I have used P to soothe emotional distress. This is a problem. I "quit" several times with varying degrees of success. But ultimately, I slide back into it when times get tough. Beating this bad habit is essential to my life - physically, mentally, emotionally.

2. Continuing to use P will damage every aspect of my life's purpose and values. Integrity, honor, self-control, confidence, respect for others, and so on, - all the qualities of a good man will diminish, degrade, and die. These will be replaced by guilt, shame, self-loathing, objectification of persons, weakness and sickness, lost time, lost relationships, lost reputation...succinctly put: disaster.

3. There is every reason to quit and no reason to continue. But I need help. The neural pathways in my brain relating to this destructive habit are strong. It will take work and time to undo this damage. Currently, times are tough for me, but that's no excuse for weakness. There are no excuses for P dependency.

4. The destruction of P is undeniable. I have hope that NoFap and this community of like-minded people will be a place of safety and healing as I walk out of the darkness toward the light of freedom.
 
IrrevocableTrust said:
1. For years, I have used P to soothe emotional distress. This is a problem. I "quit" several times with varying degrees of success. But ultimately, I slide back into it when times get tough. Beating this bad habit is essential to my life - physically, mentally, emotionally.

2. Continuing to use P will damage every aspect of my life's purpose and values. Integrity, honor, self-control, confidence, respect for others, and so on, - all the qualities of a good man will diminish, degrade, and die. These will be replaced by guilt, shame, self-loathing, objectification of persons, weakness and sickness, lost time, lost relationships, lost reputation...succinctly put: disaster.

3. There is every reason to quit and no reason to continue. But I need help. The neural pathways in my brain relating to this destructive habit are strong. It will take work and time to undo this damage. Currently, times are tough for me, but that's no excuse for weakness. There are no excuses for P dependency.

4. The destruction of P is undeniable. I have hope that NoFap and this community of like-minded people will be a place of safety and healing as I walk out of the darkness toward the light of freedom.
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I’m glad you’re here. It sounds like you’re ready for a new life. There is hope here. You’ll find support to do the right thing.
 
IrrevocableTrust said:
I have hope that NoFap and this community of like-minded people will be a place of safety and healing as I walk out of the darkness toward the light of freedom.
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Hey @IrrevocableTrust ,

Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place.

I'm just a regular member on here, so take what I say as my experience. I found that I needed to:

1. Learn the NoFap program.

2. Get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:


It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS -

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/
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@Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/
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@ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/
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@PatrickR - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/
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@GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/
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@Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.
 
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