Restoring Trust

swissarmyknight

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Last night my wife went to hang out with some friends of ours from work (we work together). Since she was going to be with them I decided to go to my buddies house to chill with him. He frequently smokes weed and almost always does when I'm over there.

My wife and I were both raised in a very strict religion where anything that is mind altering or harmful to your body is against the rules. Personally I find nothing wrong with it as long as you aren't destroying your life because of it and I recently had my therapist encourage me to think about what I believe. So when confronted with an opportunity to smoke weed after having decided that I don't think that it's wrong, I did. I've smoked before and m wife knows that I'm intrigued by it, but I really should have told her how I was feeling before. She didn't know I was reconsidering my decision and was really hurt when I told her that I partook.

I know that's really messed up of me and I can't express enough how guilty I feel. She even said that she's not that mad that I smoked, but that I didn't trust her enough to talk to her about my feelings toward it. I feel awful and I just want her to know that I didn't say anything out of fear of rejection, judgement and hurting her feelings.

I just want to know if any of you out there have any tips on how to help smooth things over so I can reassure her that I care about her.
Thoughts?
 
I'm not married so it's really not my place to give major advice, but that fear of rejection is a big thing to work on. Less communication has always made things worse in my relationships. It's so much easier to say nothing, but it will almost always turn out worse. Maybe just tell her that you made a mistake and do something nice?
 
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