Root of every RELAPSE is DESIRE!!!

Tomorrow i will be 24 years old. Last 4 years of my life was miserable. I was trying so hard to quit my nicotine and porn addiction but every my attempt ended in a relapse. I would always relapse after 30,40 days... i tried everything but no matter how hard i try no matter what i do or what strategy i have i would always relapse because one bloody thing. And that is DESIRE FOR SEX.

You see i always wanted to have a hot beautiful girlfriend and everything i was doing in my life for the last 4 years all my selfimprovments and nofap journey, everything i started was because of that desire for having a girlfriend. And i always thought that having a girlfriend and having sex with her will make me happy and fulfilled.

And because of that way of thinking and that desire i was relapsing over and over again and that destroyed my life. You would ask how a desire can do that?

Kabbalah teach us that every thought that our mind produce, every action that we take in our lifes is a direct result of an desire. And the strongest of all desires is a desire for sex. I would always relapse after 30 days because i would allow the desire for sex to be so big and so strong that it was impossible for me to hold it and i was forced to relapse.

Desire for sex is like a cup with hole on bottom. Sex and masturbating is like you put water in it. You fill it for a second but after a while it gets empty. So you need to fill it again and again and again...and the emptier it gets the stronger desire is.

Also desire can be big or small just like a cup. A size of desire for sex can determine 2 factors. One is your eyes second is your thoughts. Everytime you see a hot girl your desire gets bigger, everytime you think about girl and sex your desire gets biger. The biger desire is the more thoughts and cravings it will produce. And it will get biger and biger and biger until you satisfy it.

And that is why 99% of people on nofap include me relapse. Its because we allowed our desire by loking and thinking about girls to be so big that at the end we could do nothing about it and we end in a relapse.

So what i wanted to say is that im giving up on my pursuit for a girlfriend. I realised that everything i wanted was to fill a void that cant be filled.From now on I will focus my attention to desires of higher level and i will never again allow myself to look, dream or think about girls.I will make my desire for sex as small as possible by avoiding every thought and every lustful look at woman flesh. In this world there are so much that i can do and what can make me happy.



This rabbi explained desires. I recomend you to watch. Peace.