Save me. Some help needed from a successful teen

[Lostout3]

I've been trying hard.Yet I am a failure....

I am a 16 yo boy. I am always failing..... After every pmo I feel depressed and sad..... Then I confess my sins . But I couldn't hold this for long(only for 2 days maximum. I don't know... I think about my earlier watched porn scenes and beat my d*** against the bed. Then after relapsing I feel sad so I watch porn (from ig, youtube, then porn sites) . This stupid cycle continues... Guys I am in great trouble. It may be because of my high inferiority complex. But I know pmo would just make that situation more worse. I need help.......

 

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this might seem like the stupidest/most obvious advice but stop watching porn then lmfao. if you constantly bang your head against the wall and get a headache or head injury afterwards, would you continue to bang your head against the wall? similarly, if you feel sad, depressed, like a failure, and you're dependent on porn (which i'm assuming you are, it appears to be), would you continue to watch it? yes i definitely think youd be successful without porn, i think you have far more to gain than to lose, and you have a ton of people who are willing to give you advice and help you through this journey

 

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You have the power to stop. You have the knowledge with tools like this website to help you stop. You have services and apps to help you stop. What else do you need? Handcuffs!

Seriously dude. Just take responsibility and accept that you don't get to experience pleasure 24×7 in life. You have to earn your keep. Put in the work and you will soon overcome all your bad habits.

 

[Ogikubo]

Sorry but... the guilt and shame you feel does nothing but lower your mood and self-esteem. And when you feel low and hopeless, well, of course you are going to jerk off to porn again.
Right now, it's not a question of how many days you can go. It's a question of trying to understand why you keep relapsing. You absolutely must talk to a counsellor or a psychologist. They can help you manage your feelings.
Unless you have a strategy and a person who is determined to help you, you will fail. It sucks to say this but most guys who only have will power will fail. Get help now. You are 16. I wish someone had said this to me when I was 16. You can do it. Take the step. Shame is getting you nowhere.

 

[Enwar]

Brother, keep praying. I have tried many strategies and tricks in my life, but they never worked. The only way to stop watching pornography is to stop watching it. However strong the urges are, you have to just not do it. Wait for the temptation to go away, because it's always possible to resist it successfully, as the Bible says. You will feel like a king afterwards. You know what the deceitful alternative is, anyway.

I would say that, to make it easier, you have to not want to watch porn at all (I myself stopped watching it because I became fed up with seeing so many penises although I only looked for solo videos, seeing so much transgender and homosexual porn being presented to me; it was truly disgusting, and made me stop); however, I understand that it isn't possible for most to just not want to watch it anymore, because of desensitization. Whatever you do now, stop watching porn with men in it.

By the way, the belief that watching porn is sinful is what stopped me from giving into it. I knew that it was twisting my mind and harming my body, but the temptation was too strong for me to be able to stop for those reasons alone. I only was motivated to quit by my faith, ultimately. The guilt is a good motivator, and is appropriate, and so it should not be disregarded. I prayed for forgiveness and help from God after every single time.

The shame never lasted longer than about an hour afterwards, though, because I always convinced myself that that time was the last time. Even when I didn't really believe it (although I did 95 percent of the time), I would say it, because I knew that porn was wrong and immensely destructive, and so I couldn't stay in it forever. I never accepted that porn would always be a part of my life. You shouldn't either.

Don't feel ashamed for too long, becauae it will lead to a feeling of hopelessnes, and will also hurt you mentally; don't suppress the shame, use it as a motivation to stop, but don't go too far. God bless.