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Scared history will repeat itself.

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by SorryWontSayIt, Jan 8, 2019.

  1. SorryWontSayIt

    SorryWontSayIt Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    So I am currently doing pretty good! And the first week of 2019 and the last two months of 2018 have been going great!

    I went trough some bad time last year including a break up which made it all worse.

    Now I have been texting a girl a lot lately, and she lives a bit more then one hour away from me. I want to ask her out, but I am scared history will repeat itself.

    Last break up was because both of us was moving to different parts of the country, and she did not want to try long distance. I have learned that it would not work, so it have made it a lot easier for me to get over her then it first was. (We are talking about 4-5 hours away).

    The girl I want to ask out now, want to travel for some time (I don't know for how long she will yet), and she will move 2 hours away from me later most likely if she still have the same idea later. Now she works a lot and is pretty busy.

    Should I still try, or should I back off before I hurt myself again? I am afraid if she does not want a long distance relationship too, I may get hearthbroken again because of that.
     
    RobbyGo36 likes this.
  2. i understand your frustration, its hard not having the courage or having fear of what could happen, when i look back at my life, do you know what i regret the most?, not doing it, i always regret my inability to take action and just doing it, so unless you want to live with more regret for the rest of your life i would advise doing it, but before you do it really think about the situation you are in, do you really need a girlfriend or are you acting out of desperation and want, i would suggest you think about those things. I would make myself depressed and lot because i wanted a girl friend, but i realized there is a time and place for everything, and when the time is right it will happen.
     
    CH3RRY likes this.
  3. Distance relationships don't work unless you have been together a long time and one of you is planning to move closer soon. I know because I tried it a few times and it seemed the distance made us grow apart since we were not together very long
     

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