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Seeing an escort to help recover PIED?

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by skypieholeson, Oct 4, 2021.

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  1. skypieholeson

    skypieholeson New Fapstronaut

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    I've read multiple threads here around using escorts and I can see the general view is not to see one, however given my circumstances I wonder if it's an option for me. Not looking at this from a moral perspective, it is legal where I live.

    PIED History: Attempted to have sex with 2 women, both times I've not been able to get an erection (probably due to anxiety). I've seen multiple escorts in the past, 60% of the time I've been able to keep an erection.

    Masturbated and porn since the age of 14 and attempted and failed to break my virginity at 24, I'm currently 30. I've been seeing a endocrinologist and all of my hormones are in a good range so it's unlikely physical.

    NoFap Steak: Currently on Day 277, previous to this I was on a 190 day steak followed by a month relapse. Currently seeing mixed results around progress, getting morning erections 1-2 times a week but not rock hard.

    I feel like anxiety is probably my cause of PIED given my current streaks, I've not really seen any real improvements. I think I'm self sabotaging relationships and attempts to talk to women and have sex because I'm so scared of not being able to perform. I've got to the point where I think I should see some escorts to "desensitise" myself to the act of sex, I've not really been "addicted" to sex/escorts in the past so addiction is not an issue for me.

    What are everyone's thoughts?
     
  2. OhWhenThe

    OhWhenThe Fapstronaut

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    My belief is that your body will let you know when you're ready to have sex again, you don't need to test it with a hooker, you'll just know.

    How is your libido currently? Do you have any urge to masturbate? Are those 277 days totally without porn or p-subs? If so, congrats, but maybe you just need more time. I don't think seeing escorts is going to desensitise you to sex as by the sounds of it you're already there, I think that line of thinking is more coming from frustration at the lack of results you're seeing rather than anything logical. I don't actually have any moral objections with seeing an escort but I don't think it's going to help you in any way currently.
     
  3. JohnSimmonsDay1345

    JohnSimmonsDay1345 New Fapstronaut

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    All you need is a change of died for ya libido brother
     
  4. skypieholeson

    skypieholeson New Fapstronaut

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    Libido feels fairly low, which is surprising given my testosterone levels, urges to masturbate and watch porn are low. Yes it is 277 days without porn, although I've been on dating apps as I'm trying to peruse a relationship and watched the odd sex scene in movies but that's not intentional. It feels like continuing NoFap won't bring me much more benefits, however I'll continue it until I break it with a woman (escort or otherwise).

    My diet and exercise regime is solid. I eat healthy 85% of the time, making sure I get plenty of healthy fats and proteins. I do resistance training twice a week including heavy pullups, farmers walks etc. I've also experimented with supplements such as Maca and Tongkat Ali without any success.
     
  5. OhWhenThe

    OhWhenThe Fapstronaut

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    I've never gotten anywhere close to 277 days but during my longest streak of just over two months I had zero libido right from the start and it stayed that way until around day 60ish, at which point it just came back. I didn't do anything to make it happen, suddenly I was just crazy horny again having felt nothing up until that point. I can imagine after 277 days however you're probably thinking that this isn't going anywhere but there have been cases on here of guys seeing their libido return after a year or more, for some it just takes longer. I really don't think forcing sex is going to do anything positive for you and may even set you back, I know it sucks and I'm back there again myself but I think this is something you've just got to wait out.
     

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