Seeing no benefits - Starting to lose hope

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Sandsii, Dec 29, 2017.

  1. Sandsii

    Sandsii Fapstronaut

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    I'm on day 30 of my first ever streak so i've never relapsed but I'm really struggling at the minute. I'm not so much worried about the temptations of relapsing overcoming me as I can fight that but if my motivation to continue nofap decreases that is when something could go wrong.

    Brief summary - I started nofap as I have really bad social anxiety, have no friends or gf, no proper job and no confidence to leave my house. I used to just sit and pmo every day and have no motivation to do anything else.
    After hearing about NoFap i heard stories of it changing people's lives. It was curing people's anxiety, giving them energy and confidence boots, brain clarity etc and so I followed suit.

    However, aside from a slight increase in energy I have not had any improvements as of yet. I know its only early in my streak still but when you're fighting the urges every single day and seeing no improvement there's gonna be a time when I'm just gonna say f*** it and go back to how I used to be. I'm so so desperate to bust that its driving me insane. Having said that everything is still under control but I can see it starting to slip if things dont change.

    I guess what I wanted to know is when will I start to see improvements to myself? Will it actually help my anxiety? I'm working out, reading and trying my best to make sh*t happen but I still seem to be stuck exactly in the same spot where I started except my balls weigh 4 tons more.

    Help a man out!
     
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  2. Buffalo Will

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    What’s up bro, to start congrats on that impressive streak of 30 days, I’m on day 14 and I’m tripping. I think life would get way easier once you start socializing with people and find a job you enjoy, days go by quicker and you’ll feel some benefits from it. Only through 14 days I’ve seen improvements in my social and professional life. Just stay the course bro, PMOing is a never ending cycle that destroys lives. Good luck bro
     
  3. talontron

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    dude its been only thirty days, you dont sound normal before you quit. It will take quite some time to rewire your brain. That is your addiction talking. Stick to no pmo and always remind yourself of it. Make a committment to no jack off or watch porn ever again. You need to find activities to replace your old behavior. Start working out, meditating, reading books, yoga, etc. Just get out of the house and join a sports group or other hobby group. Just get off the computer and give it time.

    You need a hard reboot and it will most likely take more than 90 days for you
     
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  4. Sandsii

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    I hear you and i have no intentions of relapsing. I'm doing activities to replace pmo but my social anxiety pretty much stops me from doing much more. Cant talk to girls or make friends and want to get a new job but my anxiety just controls me. Was hoping nofap would somehow reduce it but I guess i gotta just keep going to find out...
     
  5. jorg78

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    I'm sorry but it will take more than 30 days to get the benefits, trust the process. Boring answer, but it's a true answer.
     
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  7. Sandsii

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    I have 6 dogs already haha
     
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  8. HatePorn

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    Give me one!
     
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  9. Have you tried meditation? That helped my anxiety pretty good. Also, if you been using P for a long time and a lot, expect more than 90 days to heal. 90 days isn’t even a legit day to considered being healed, I think it’s more of stopping a habit, but we still have the physical damages in our brain. Keep going, get to 90 and see if changes occur, then make a judgment
     
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  10. You are right!
    All we need is results. You have to keep in mind that we are hear after going through a lot a crap, to get out of this it's gonna take a lot of time and effort.
    Keep your head high and walk through the journey cause change is inevitable.
     
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