Seeking advice from men rebooting with a partner.

Hi guys, I'm hoping this is the right area to post this- apologies if not.

Sorry for the Novel, I need to fully explain my situation.

I'm seeking advice from any guy around my age who has successfully rebooted with a partner.

I'm 22 and I've been in a relationship with an amazing girl for the last 5 years. I've been PMOing since I was 13 years old, with tastes/fetishes slowly progressing through the years. We had regular sex ever since we got together due to the fact that I had such an insane sex drive and she just wanted to do anything to please me, even if I was only 50% erect she would still let me do her.. I knew I had a problem with porn as soon as we got together and started having these issues, but quite often I could get a decent erection and had great sex so I never realized how serious my addiction really was and so I was regularly engaging in porn use as well as having real sex with her so i guess you could say my brain was wired to both real sex and porn? I don't know. I have been trying to quit PMO on and off for the last 2 years or more, everytime I try, I make it over a month no PMO and my dick stops working completely and always end up freaking out, failing and going back to porn binges.

My girlfriend is amazing and plan on proposing when I finally recover. She has been amazingly supportive of me with all of this and wants to help me in my reboot. Finally I have made a decent attempt at quitting porn and masturbation, I haven't pmo'd for 6 weeks now but have still been having regular sex with my girlfriend. I have no intention at ever going back to porn, I'm ready to have a healthy sex life and am feeling very confident about beating this addiction this time.


I've suffered from PIED and DE (sometimes) ever since we got together, sometimes it would work, sometimes it wouldn't. Sometimes I could finish, sometimes I just couldn't.


So basically after stopping the PMO on the 17th of march 2019 I had an insane surge in sexual energy for the first 7-10 days, decent morning wood and got very solid erections during sexual play, true intimacy was returning and it felt amazing too as long as I was being stimulated and I could O quite easily.

After 10 days I'm pretty sure I hit a major flatline and I think i've been stuck there on and off ever since. I'm upto day 42 and have more or less lost my libido and decent erections are rare and only from her stimulating. No morning wood, no random/thought induced erections, nothing. We have been trying to play and have sex if I can get hard every other day and she will play with me and maybe get 50-60% hard but the erections are weak and go straight down when she stops touching it.

This is where I'm at right now, I feel insanely horny but my dick doesn't want to respond. I can sometimes get hard but it doesn't last. I'm craving true intimacy, kissing, touching, building sexual tension etc. whereas 2 months ago That stuff just didn't interest me. I haven't felt like this since we first got together, I feel like i'm falling for her all over again and rebuilding our emotional/intimate relationship which is amazing, but physically and deep down I feel like crap, I have no confidence and don't feel like a man.

So, guys who have rebooted with a partner,

How many flatlines did you have?

Why do I get good erections during the first 10 days but now nothing?

Is having/trying to have sex effecting my reboot?

Did you feel insanely aroused but no response from your penis?

What is normal? I can't remember the last time I got a normal erection just from thinking about a girl, or from just touching or kissing a girl.

Please, any insight from blokes who have successfully rebooted with a long term girlfriend or are well on their way, please let me know your experiences and after how long etc.

Any insight will be appreciated from anyone though.

Thanks heaps everyone, I'll keep on fighting.