Seeking AP who will support an orgasm-free, karezza based objective

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  1. +TenPercent

    +TenPercent Fapstronaut

    Some people think I'm nuts, and some seem to try to lead me astray.
    My goal is to avoid orgasm and emission at all costs, as best I can . . . forever.
    Like an alcoholic who can not drink ever again, I am an orgasm addict.
    I am not seeking to be a monk. I want to find a life-time partner and practice Karezza.

    Orgasm is the root of all my sexual troubles. All these behaviours spiralled way out of control but trying to keep them all in check is futile and hasn't worked so far.
    I believe the solution (for me) is:
    1. No orgasm or emission at all costs
    2. Nurturing care and support from many sources
    3. A karezza based committed monogamous relationship
    If you have the same goals, or if you can fully support me with these goals, I would love to check in on an (almost) daily basis.

    *not interested in checking in via text, WhatsApp or some medium other than the messaging feature of NoFap
    ** male, female or other gender identity is okay
    *** I do use a chastity device, as little as possible. Ultimately I would like to do this without extrinsic constraints, but I am willing to go to any lengths to avoid orgasm and emission.
     
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  2. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut

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    Hello man!
    I support the No Orgasm if you mean no ejaculation!
    I m available to be an AP if you're serious about this ;)

    By the way What's Karezza?
     
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  3. +TenPercent

    +TenPercent Fapstronaut

    Orgasm and ejaculation frequently go together but I have found it is possible to have orgasm without ejaculation, as well as emission without ejaculation and emission/ejaculation without orgasm.

    I am trying to avoid all three, with any type of emission of semen (AKA semen retention or avoiding the seminal crisis) being the line that I don't want to cross.

    Karezza is kind of like having sex but without orgasm. Orgasm is not the goal. The goal is bonding with ones partner with all the intimate, nourishing aspects of making love, but abstaining from orgasm (for both parties) in order to avoid the neurochemical changes that follow from orgasm. This is best described in "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow" by Marnia Robinson.

    Btw, 489 days without porn and masturbation is amazing!
     
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  4. romlel

    romlel Fapstronaut

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    I avoid ejaculation too;)
    So okay if youre ready I can be your AP!
     
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  5. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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    Id like to help, i wear chastity at night so i cant masturbate
     
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  6. PolarOtter

    PolarOtter Fapstronaut

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    Before even hearing about nofap and no pmo, I used to wear my chastity device at night for the same reason... since starting my journey here, I haven't worn it, but it is still available in case the urges become too much. During my reboot, I was and have continued to be orgasm free, except for when I attempted karezza with my partner the last time we were together (on 5/4 and 5/5). The technique is new to me and unfortunately, I wasn't able to move the energy around, but that is my goal... to have a full body orgasm without ejaculating. If you are looking for multiple people to be involved, I am interested as well!
     
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  7. +TenPercent

    +TenPercent Fapstronaut

    Cool. PM sent. :cool:

    I have also benefitted from using a chastity device and I would not have made it this far without one.
    But I have to be very careful not to use it as a fetish. As a fetish it can be used to generate and sustain arousal. I use it to prevent myself from masturbating when I feel like the urges might overwhelm me. I also use it as a reminder of my goals. And . . . I keep one of the keys on my keychain so, even though I rarely wear it, I always have that key to remind me of my objective to avoid orgasm and emission at all costs.

    Ideally, I would not have to wear a chastity device at all. But I have not reached that level of self-control yet.

    I also don't wear it at night. My belief is that part of the normal sleep cycle includes nocturnal erections . . . and I don't want to mess up my sleep cycles. I have heard that some men get quite used to sleeping in chastity at night, but the few times that I have tried, I woke up in extreme pain when those erections occurred.

    As for full-body orgasms . . . I am trying to avoid that. My goal is to not have orgasms at all. This is not in order to experience more orgasmic pleasure, but to avoid the consequences of what happens after the orgasm.

    In short, for me, orgasm leaves me feeling euphoric for a few seconds (when I do it all the time) or maybe even as long half a day (if I go a few months without it), but once the euphoria subsides, I am left feeling restless, irritable, and discontent unless I can achieve yet another satisfactory, satiating orgasm . . . which starts the two week cycle again. :(
     
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  8. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I totally get that, I'am cautious that it doesnt become a fetish as that will make things worse.
     
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