Seeking Recommendations on How to Leverage Post Nut Clarity

The most helpful thing I ever did within the moment of post nut clarity, was to install a rigid set of blockers to aid me in the future. I totally understand, that blockers aren't everyones cup of tea. So, if that is not something you are interested in, I totally understand.

But I have researched and tried different blockers for weeks, because I always found loopholes making them basically useless. But after a few weeks, I found a combination of things, which work very well right now and to which I have not found any loophole yet. These blockers are a great help right now. I plan on uninstalling them at some point, but right now I'm really glad I have them. Maybe that is something for you?

 

I have figured out a decent blocker system for my iphone, with a few minor setbacks.

I use the the content restrictions under screen time and block all adult content, as well as some known sites that are not blocked by it. I also have disabled downloading apps, but you could also set it to just block age 17+ if you want to block only reddit. downside to what i do is i have to remove the restrictions if i want to download or update apps.

I use the screen time password, which unfortunately is only 4 digits and easy to remember. I think best case is to have a friend set it, but I usually just type in random numbers twice in a row and forget it within a few minutes. Screen time password can be disabled by logging into your apple account, so it is good to have a random password that’s hard to remember either written down or stored in an online lockbox with a time delay.

 

I started reading into my fetishes, be it academic articles or on blogs and forums. The more I read, the more I understood that many of the fetishes are a coping mechanism for issues.

This could be past trauma, or it could be uncomfortable new feelings like boredom or loneliness. Whatever it may be, I found it helpful to understand that many people go through these things and are looking for temporary distractions.

Of course this then means that over time these fetishes can be replaced with healthier tools for processing trauma or uncomfortable emotions.

But over time this perspective did help. I started to see a fetish I found in porn as less of a messed up thing that I associated with myself, and more of an escapism tool that doesn't work long term for me.

 

Sorry for the late reply, I missed your post somehow.

I was just talking to another person about this, so I'll just copy my message into here. Keep in mind, that I just summed my blockers up on a very, very basic level. If you are interested and wanna know more or need help with something, just ask! So, here we go:

 

I don't think there is any way to leverage post nut clarity... after an ejaculation to PMO, your energy storage has become depleted. Your brain and body are not functioning at their best rate. Anything you write down at this time regarding ways to leverage post nut clarity is not going to contain the subtle essence of true, good thoughts.

Maybe a better route to take would be to abstain from PMO for a number of days. Then, on a day you are feeling especially good when on NoFap, write down some of your thoughts. I think this would be a better idea.

Might as well make your last ejaculation to porn your last ever ejaculation to porn. No need to think about post nut clarity anymore... The post nut clarity is actually just emptiness of mind, and a scattered mind, and a mind that has had its energy hallowed out

 

I don't know, I've had some epiphany moments right after PMO sessions. You reach rock bottom and the problems in your life are no longer hidden with the highs of PMO suddenly gone. Nothing tells me I need to be more social than relapsing on a Saturday night...

But I agree reflecting on your thoughts whenever you're feeling better is just as important. I think both can compliment each other.

I'm not sure if saying never again to PMO is as helpful as it sounds. Of course that would be ideal. But it's more likely that relapses will happen during the recovery process. If you accept it might happen, there's less shame and hopelessness feeling if it does.

 

You've hit the nail on the head in my opinion. I agree with everything you said in this post.