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Seems utterly impossible, but willing to try...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by edpierce, Jul 28, 2013.

  1. Jul 28, 2013 #1
    edpierce

    edpierce New Fapstronaut

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    Since I'm brand new to this site, I figured I might as well introduce myself. I'm a mid thirties recently divorced male and have been fapping more or less since I was around 12. The longest I have ever gone was maybe a week in middle school. Since then the longest I've ever gone is about three to four days. So why do I want to stop fapping? I really hate seeing women as sex objects. Every time I see an attractive girl/worman, the first thing that pops into my mind is fapping her every which way possible. I know this is due to the countless hours of porn that I've watched throughout the years. I know deep down that I'm better than this, that women aren't sex objects, that they're real people with real feelings who deserve respect. So I really want to give this a try. It's just that I've tried so may times in the past and ALWAYS have failed. And what gets me down is that I'm a strong person. I've kicked alcholol, drugs, junk food and most recently caffiene. But I just don't know how anybody can kick fapping. I just can't see myself doing it. I recently told a friend about it, and he was like, well...if you're giving that up, you might as well as give up eating and breathing too. Thanks to this site I know that it can be done, but actually doing it seems impossible. But, I'm willing to give it a go. So I'm on Day 1 today. Haven't fapped at all and don't feel the need to...but I know it's just a matter of time before the urge hits. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to get through it today, but tomororw and the next day, and the day after that....guess I'll just wait and see.
     
    edpierce, Jul 28, 2013
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  2. Jul 30, 2013 #2
    jb18938

    jb18938 Fapstronaut

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    Hey Ed, I'm totally with you here. It seems like a good idea, and giving up fapping seems like the only option after I've gotten to my current situation. My fapping has become such a part of my identity (both known to others as well as my "secret" identity)that it really is like someone giving up alcohol or drugs...we know we should do it, but life without it seems lame. My vice is women's feet, and the images and porn that goes with it. I have such mixed feelings about it. Even though it seems like a silly fetish, now that I'm stopping my fap habit, a big part of me is going to miss it. It was such a seemingly innocent release from stress and anxiety, and so many girls seemed to enjoy it. Still, I know that it is clouding my judgment and my porn addiction was slowly growing into an escort/dominatrix addiction. Thinking about my wife catching me making an appointment with a foot Fetish escort, or just thinking about the guilt and shame if I didn't get caught, makes me feel so sad and gross. I am right with you, stuck In the cloudy times where it doesn't make sense. Still, nothing worthwhile is easy. The easy way out gives you small, temporary rewards and imagine how great the reward will be if we trade out small pleasures for a bigger, better reward later. Stay strong buddy. J
     
    jb18938, Jul 30, 2013
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  3. Jul 30, 2013 #3
    Febells

    Febells Fapstronaut

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    Keep it up. We are with you ;)
     
    Febells, Jul 30, 2013
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