Sensitivity

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by James Mattingly, Jul 22, 2018.

  1. James Mattingly

    James Mattingly Fapstronaut

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    I am so fucking sensitive. It's only been about 5 days but I am emotionally raw. I have been getting furious at people. Particularly from my guy friends. Things are really hurting my feelings and making me angry. Sometimes I worry that this will never end. But I think the feelings are significant. I just wish they weren't so big and difficult to handle. I just feel awful when someone makes fun of me. It makes me want to cry or lash out. I feel worthless.
     
  2. If your friends are making fun of you are they really your friends?
     
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  3. Real friends don't bully their friends.
     
  4. James Mattingly

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    I've been bullied, and I know what that feels like. To me there are relationships that are destructive and addictive and that's all they are. In this cases, I think this friendships are worth it. Me and this particular person have an enormous amount in common- we just really go at each other. I do my best to let him know how I feel. In fact after yesterday, we talked and he mentioned how he appreciated me telling him that it bothers me because he's use to being in kind of abusive guy relationships. He's been bullied before. I wanna focus on why people can get under my skin so easily. I would like to be tougher and still respect my feelings. It just hurts so bad sometimes. I have been in some really harmful relationship. I'm trying to find and cultivate better friends. But in this case, this person means more to me than just a bully. Were friends, were co-workers. Were almost like brothers. We get under each others skin, and then make up- but it's hard sometimes.
     
  5. First of all, thank you for being so open. Look, I have been in the same situation many times, but I won't be so open about it since people on the internet tend to pick on weaknesses, so I'll keep it to myself. The point is, I know exactly how you feel. As for the sensitivity, I've been a very sensitive person as of late due to some... problems I've been having. But NoFap was letting it all out, the withdrawal symptoms and all. On Day 7 to 12 I was feeling agitated and angry. I would also defend myself against those who put fear in my heart before NoFap. People fall too easily these days, and I cannot help but get frustrated because I've been through worse. But the truth is, and I mean this with all respect intended. So what? You're feeling frustrated and angry. So what? Deal with the withdrawal symptoms like a man and see how you feel during day 30. I mean that meaningfully. Peace.
     
  6. James Mattingly

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    @TheImperturbableOne You literally just were talking about about how people on the internet pick on weakness and then you started being a prick. I guess you're right- the internet isn't a place to talk about your weakness. Shit....
     
  7. Yes, I spoke about how people on the internet tend to pick on weaknesses. And I did not pick on your weaknesses. I offered you my perspective. But if you want to call me a prick and use the word shit simply because I offered you an olive branch, then it is your freedom to knock it from my hand as you please. Like I said, people fall too easily these days, in all aspects. They give in to lust, anger, revenge. They're all just symptoms of ignorance. And do you know what sparks ignorance? Misunderstanding. I've always said this. And here you are, misunderstanding my advice. Think about what people say to you instead of going into fight or flight mode. This is a community of people who support each other in the journey of becoming the strongest versions of themselves, even when disguised in tough love. How you reacted was not only childish, but inappropriate. Peace.
     

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