Serious Problem With transwoman Porn

I know that this is a difficult subject for a lot of people and it might be a good time to explore some more unorthodox techniques. One of my closest friends is a transsexual woman (they very much prefer that term over transwoman) and I have known her since long before she was a woman. There is a lot to know, and I don't know what you want to accomplish specifically in your journey, but perhaps it would be valuable for you to speak with a transsexual so that you have an image of them outside of porn. Again I have no idea what's best for you, but I certainly don't think there's any shame in seeing the beauty of trans girls. Some of them are even religious. Getting passed guilt and shame could also aid hugely in your effort whether or not you want to "overcome" this type of attraction, but those trans girls need love and admiration too. Also I will mention that the reason many trans girls turn to porn is because they get ostracized by family members and often times society itself. Most trans women are otherwise normal people trying to live life the way they truly see themselves. To be a transsexual a person typically suffers from gender dysphoria (a deep, complex and personal understanding that their body does not match their mind) for years before beginning hormone therapy (where they grow breasts). Typically they don't get bottom surgery because it's extremely invasive and expensive, and doesn't tend to change the way they're treated in their day to day lives, which is what they really care about. Perhaps work to better understand the reality of the people behind the fetish and then go from there.

 

Hey dude I also suffer from transwoman porn(specifically sissy) and to me, I used to be terrified of having pied because of this porn. But after starting NoFap. I’ve developed a new fear of actually accepting my fetish and letting go. Which came about after my repeated failures during my attempted streaks. Ever since this “normalization”, for me at least, I masturbate even more and I feel less regret. Which terrifies to from a conscious to a sub conscious level. Because it kinda feels like your giving up. Don’t take this as me saying what your doing is wrong. I kinda have the same feeling as you and I just would rather voice my viewpoint and have your thoughts on it. Since I feel lost at this point.

 

transwoman porn is a fantasy, as all porn is. Transwomen rarely look like transwoman actresses and they often aren't into taking penetrative role in sex.

You have this fetish for years but it probably can be removed with withdrawing from porn. I know it can be hard, but I've managed to ged rid if some kinks.

 

I don't actually have a fetish for trans girls, that is OP. - That being said, I think I do know what you mean about giving up; Interest in trans girls is not the problem, porn is- which brings me to the next point thankfully brought up by Freedom_from_PMO

Absolutely. Trans women almost never want to take a masculine role during sex. They want to be on the receiving end. My friend is disgusted when men ask her to penetrate them. That act sadly is depicted in porn A LOT because actresses are paid more to do it, and it can be exciting for men because role reversal is sometimes fun and somewhat taboo. This is the "infinite novelty" issue that makes porn so addicting and compelling.

If someone likes trans girls because they think their bodies and (sometimes) deep voices are cute then by all means they should pursue them (in the real world) without shame or regret because what you find attractive is part of your sexual gift- BUT- if you're viewing the content for cuck/humiliation or other shame related release you should carefully assess whether or not that is something you want to continue doing. Some people spend their whole lives fighting these fetishes and others accept them and indulge without regret. What you choose will probably affect the type of life you have on the other end, but it's a process of deep soul searching. I personally have struggled with some humiliation style fetishes in the past and have begun the long (but so far successful) journey of overcoming them. Thinking about the porn I used to watch does not excite me the way it once did- and I've accomplished that by training myself intensely with strict nofap and mindful de-infatuation of women as a whole. If you want to know more of my tricks for de-infatuation let me know. If you want to know more about what trans women are like in real life, let me know (I have known several). If you would like me to send the fetish reversal books I read and have implemented into my strategy, let me know. I spent $20 on them.

I know this is a massive ball of knots, and there is a lot to know. I believe that all of us can find the path we need to navigate sexuality in these absurdly fucked up times, but it starts with understanding ourselves and what we really need or want.

 

I have a personal policy of not acting on fetishes that are porn induced and these days it is probably overwhelming majority of them. I have one "natural" kink and I had couple of porn induced kinks and I managed to get rid of them and I am a lot more happy that way. There are many factors besides sexual gratification that play a role in decision to act or not on a kink. Morality, integrity etc. are important parts of being fulfilled human being and sometimes it is better to let the matter drop than to spend life on internal struggle, that's why I prefer restricting kinks. This is a lot easier at the point when you see that porn induced fetishes can fade. Our sexuality can be really deeply changed by porn and I never felt good with that thought even if fetishes were giving me gratification.

Also if you are doing something with real human being under influence of a fetish then it is easy to look at them as a fetish disposer and it might be not obvious. I was attracted to transwomen in the past and I am not really today. I want to have children as well as dating them is not recommended by my faith so if I'll decide to date them at some point I'll probably realise that I allowed fetish to influence my decisions to much and I'll have either live in unfulfilling relationship or break up and admit that it was novelty seeking all the time and I shouldn't emotionally involve the other person.

 

That was a very concise and valuable post. You have a clear grasp on your needs and being able to separate a human being from a "fetish disposer" is essential. One of the main issues my trans friend seems to suffer from is being fetishized, where a boyfriend would treat her like a dirty secret. She has had more legitimate boyfriends as well, but men sometimes try to use her for novelty sex. That is obviously horrible as most of us are searching for lasting love. I would never want to discourage someone from recovery if they truly believe that trans women interest is a kink in their sexuality, but I would also never want to discourage someone from finding or getting to know a trans woman if they are truly interested in them. Most trans women never shoot porn, and porn does not represent transsexual sex accurately. There certainly is a lot to consider, it's a fairly complex issue as to whether or not the fetish is harmful, I suppose it's up to everyone to decide for themselves. I never really had the fetish but I did watch a few trans videos on occasion. My fetishes got really sad and self destructive, hence deciding to quit. It's a hell of a trip for anyone.