Sex Chat Sites

I've found that I have so much more free time, but I don't have periods of boredom. I have so many new projects that I'm working on all the time now. I'm an architect and have been using the new time to work on personal design projects.

 

hmm never thought about this.

 

Sex chat sites are 100 times worse than watching porn, in my experience. In the last 2 days only, I've masturbated 5 times while chatting with some random stranger, talking about sex. It was only now that I realised how much time I'm wasting, and that this cannot continue any longer.

I'm new here, so I'd appreciate if someone could tell me how to prevent the urge to masturbate? Thanks

 

I realize I'm guilty of being a predator. I look for lonely ladies who I think I can lure into this kind of chat. It's not fair to them & it makes me feel awful. They're usually older & out of state. I've deleted one account & have one to go. Hopefully I can get it this week. I AM going to beat this.

Of course as I type this it's after midnight & I have to be at work at 4am. What a fucking waste of life.

 

I have the same problem as well...I try to restrict myself..but it just doesn't happen..but when another guy becomes emotional..i tend to distance or block him..which is rude by anyone's standard..how do i stop?? Any Suggestions on how you did...?

 

Just like stopping porn usneha93...you have to break the quick fix bad habit and instead create a new healthy habit to replace it. I believe the key is to reach out to real face-to-face people for intimacy and connection. That takes work and is harder though. There is risk involved that they might reject us. It's not anonymous like a chat site. I found I needed to turn to others though to help get those healthy intimacy and connection needs met instead of the shortcut bad habits of porn or chat sites that were nothing more than a quick fix way of me meeting my own needs on my own terms but then left me feel empty, alone and full of shame instead.

 

Hmmm.. That's interesting topic. I would say I've heard almost any feature of sex chats here. They are all true.

I've thought a couple times reading this that the chat room topic should be separated into separated line on the nofap forum. Because this thing is too addictive. Unfortunately.

Yes they say about substitution.
Hobby and time.. Mostly changes should be so drastic that it might have to come to even changing your place, work, whole life..

The problem is.. Addicted people.. They have weak will power. They sometimes struggle facing daily problems at work. They don't socialize much and are bad at it. And every problem, any discouraging fact leads to chat rooms, porn..
While new hobby takes facing new things, socializing... That's my point.

I guess its just should be some wake up call in your life. Some internet screen will never be a remedy. Remedy is your motivation. Your hatred for PMO in any way it comes. For your ruined life. For real you.

Life? What life are we fighting for? Those who does PMO can't enjoy life cuz they see it as boring one.
Those who tries to reboot? They face their childhood problems. Something they had been running away from. What of this person can't fix it any time soon? Maybe he's scared to go to a therapist?.. Maybe he doesn't remember the facts how he gained all the pain inside?

Sorry guys, but I just said what I had in mind.
I know that it's depressive to say and kind of sarcasm which leads to some sick hopeless smile...

But I truly wish all of us guys to snap out of it, to find that wake up call. Because God gave us that life not to waste it just like that. If we are all meant for something, surely not for that crap.
Maybe that's our govs and commercial markets want us sit home and fap pur life and money out...

But we are higher that that.

HIGHER.

 

I have same experience. Chat is dangerous because, I had always persuaded myself, that I chatted with real girl. What an idiotic idea... I spent at sex-chats about year and half and did I have sex with some of theese girls? (Yes, when I look deep inside me, I have exactly theese absolutely naive ideas)... Of course not! It was just a big waste of time. The problem is that, when you start chatting with someone, you think: YES, it's real, I can do it! But after a few days it isn't so good, the person doesn't look so attractive to you, you may find some of her mistakes and so on... Then you know that you made it once, so you can find another girl easily... And this is how my journey to hell started....

 

The comment made about how problems lead you to porn is so true in my case. I can be doing well & then have a bad day at work. Usually something that hurts my self esteem. I then give up head for the porn.

Chat rooms are a big problem. I use dating sites like plenty of fish. I will look for women who mention how lonely they are. I don't look for the super hot girl. I look for someone who might be as needy as I am. It's bs because I'm using them. I have no intention of meeting them. I just use them to get off.

 

depending on the chat site you use it could be a completely different person than you think it is or a man pretending to be a women


QUOTE="Yandere Scientist, post: 442181, member: 67292"]Man, dirty conversations are one of the most powerful thing because it involves emotions. It's as dangerous as porn(if not more) because it involves another real person with who you communicate. It's a fatal weapon. Don't do that again.
If you really want it to stop . . . you'll have to stop these shit, there's no other choice. It's abstain from it, or continue doing it, there's not a midle place here.

But if you tell us that it needs to stop, it's that you really want to stop that shit. Shit stays shit after all.^^ Do your best, I believe you can because I believe you when you say you wanna stop.

Good fight !

MadScientist In honnor of Operation Fallen Soldier[/QUOTE]

 

and that stranger could have been complety a fake person like a man pretending it happens often on those chat sites

 

It's not very different from sexting.

 

Technically it's all the same nature.
Interactive stuff.

Problem and difference from P is that that you get involved/attached with real people.
And modern culture doesn't let us easily exclude online chats as such, so once normally chatting with someone you message to regularly you may think of getting back to the good old habbit with someone else again.

I think the difference here is that this addiction may partially cover a need for attention & understanding, because those chats frequently come with heart to heart talk at first..
And stranger is best to talk to.

So except this "human" feature I guess remedy is the same as for PMO, constant self-motivation and substitution. Maybe making new friends, getting more social?

Maybe it would need a quit of chatting cold turkey at all for the first time.

 

Agree that talks are powerful weapon, better stay away from it.

 

That

That is what I have to keep reminding myself, just because some says they're a pretty woman, does not mean he is...

 

Thanks for these posts everyone. I just had a sudden urge to go back to my fav chat site. I can't, I can't, I can't! It's just a bad as PMO, and usually leads to PMO!!! They are links locked in a chain, time to break the chain and break free!

 

If you use these sites... and you feel bad afterwards.... then why are you using them?

Could it be a desire to self-harm?

Let's not self-harm, people.

 

So true. My addiction start with porn, but last year i found a "spell" of chat sites... And what kept me coming back again and again? It is that somewhere in my head is voice: "Wow! You are chatting with real girl!"

In my experience, if I want to go on chat site, I'am sure that in next few days I'll "finish" myself with porn. I know it's hard. Do not repeat the same mistake again and again. I know that if I came on chat again, I would end at same point as always. Between 3 or 4 AM with penis in my hand... Does that sound like something real? No... So, don't do it, boys!

 

I hate sex thing chats!
I relapsed again yesterday.
I usually have time on weekends, always, and that's the most vulnerable time for me.

I hate it. It's easy to stay away for me from porn and stuff.
But when it comes down to real person.. Actually i'm in a relationship. It not always goes well. Relationship is reality.
When you meet somebody online - it's ideal world. It's not only PMO, it's also some fantasy about better life.
I bet for that reason I can't settle down seriously with my relationship. Because every time I know there's girl more ideal than that.
Because I don't wanna get stuck when it's so many girls out there. Disposable girls online. Even though they are real people...

I wanna quit this ideal world and wanna start living again!

I hate and love this imaginary world. It's not about PMO, it's much more.
And I depend on it. And it ties my hands towards life so that I can't scoop my will up and just start living and making decision.
I can be living in a total miserable shit speaking of reality and work and stuff, but then I get back to better world and things get softened, so that I don't care anymore again.

Still, no matter how sweet this shit is, I wanna be free. I wanna be free mind. Wanna make my own decisions, wanna be strong.
Wanna be doing RIGHT things, our society sucks and it backs up all those ideas about how PMO is good, how life is about consuming sweet thinsg here and now, and nobody the fuck wants to think about delayed gratitude, about throwing computers away and do something about it.
Because tomorrow will start with some job again on a day in and a day out basis and you will get this pill again and again...
To slap your pain. And kinda make it go away. Kinda..

 

you know, I swore to myself that I would avoid this chat group, because I felt to weak. I thought it would flare up wrong emotions and desires. But then I thought I need to face my beasts, so I read almost every post on here. I have to say guys and girls how relieved I am I am not alone on here.

Chat rooms are my greatest poison. I search for younger women all the time. For some reason women from 18-25 hypnotize me. I cannot resist them. When they begin to seduce me, I'm gone and I am completely under their control. What a perv I am.

My wife has no idea I do this, and I want to stop. I have been PMO free for 10 days and now chat room free for three days. I want to keep building on this. I want to support off of as you have helped me.

Reading so many experiences on here has really helped me realize how much danger and trouble there is in chat rooms. How they are even more dangerous than porn in my mind. Thank you for your stories

Have a good day, I'm covered in goosebumps because I want to go to a chat site so badly, but I'm off to knit before my wife is up. It will be better than going to another chat site.