Sex during reboot

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by HandsOffPlease, Mar 5, 2018.

  1. HandsOffPlease

    HandsOffPlease Fapstronaut

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    Hi, i know this might seem like a stupid question, but can you attempt to have sex during reboot to see if it has improved? If yes, will it mess up the reboot process or reset to day 1? I know everyone is different and the reboot process might be different with everyone. Thanks in advance!
     
  2. GripLess

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    I would get to at least 30 days before attempting sex. Main reason is if you cant get it up you may relapse just to check and make sure it still works. You also maybe in flatline during that time, maybe longer, and wint have any desire at all for sex. Bottom line, dont push this to happe faster, it wont help.
     
  3. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    It depends on few factors:

    1) Do you have PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction?) If so, that means you really need to reboot till the PIED is healed, so in that case, sex isn't recommended.
    2) If you don't have PIED, then sex is obviously preferred over PMO because sex is VERY natural and VERY healthy. We are wired to have sex, not meant to have PMO be wired in our brain. So reboot till you feel you have gotten a handle of your addiction then resume sex. Sex is healthy. PMO is not.
     
  4. newtonlkh

    newtonlkh Fapstronaut

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    Started a new relationship a few days ago, I guess I'm going from hardmode to softmode soon.
    Just relapsed (without porn) in order avoid myself feeling like a starving monster to her.
    Ended my first streak of about 8 days.

    I think the reason the quit porn (and/or masturbation) is to have satisfactory sex, right?
    If sex is the reason for reboot, it shouldn't be in the way of reboot process, am I right?
    Maybe I missed something.

    But then, being close to her (or even just thinking of her) excited me like crazy, for this relationship is brand-new, and she is the girl of my dreams.
    I guess my situation is not as severe as others.
     
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  5. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    People reboot for several reasons: 1) to get control of porn/masturbation addiction and 2) to heal their PIED - majority of the reasons why people are here. Once they have achieved, men's goals usually are to meet a girl and achieve sex because that's healthy and natural.

    That's great that a girl excites you. That's way it is supposed to be. That's natural. That's healthy. That's human connection. Don't mess it up. Don't let your addiction mess up the relationship with your girl. If you want sex with her, go for it. Don't let it stop it. It's healing.
     
  6. jorg78

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    I have sex during my reboot. I think it's okay but it will take a little more time to heal.
     
  7. HandsOffPlease

    HandsOffPlease Fapstronaut

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    This is pretty much my problem. I masturbated so much with porn i lost feeling during the intercourse process. I did a little research and i found out that you can grip your penis so hard during masturbation that you lose feeling during intercourse since it doesn't feel the same as your hand. I am really taking this seriously since it made my fiance feel like i am not attracted to her and that's a big problem.
     
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  8. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Exactly that’s why masturbation isn’t natural because of the death grip. Vagina is natural for penis.

    Death grip caused the feeling loss during intercourse. It happened to me. I wasn’t hard enough to be inside her the entire time!!! That was a huge eye opener for me and made me realize this isn’t good
     
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  9. Trappy7

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    this is my issue, hard with foreplay but lose erection as soon as i penetrate, so frustrating! happened the last 6 times I have attempted before starting nofap. on day 56 no PMO still failed with same issue but I may be in flatline as feel like shit so maybe wasnt the best time to try. will give it another couple of weeks before retrying
     
  10. HandsOffPlease

    HandsOffPlease Fapstronaut

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    I know. Yeah i am just training my brain. Thats what reboot is all about right? So far, i have been doing good for the past 3-4 days. I guess somewhere in the back of my mind my brain is already getting trained because i am not even feeling the urge to masturbate or watch porn. Can't lose my partner because of that.
     
  11. HandsOffPlease

    HandsOffPlease Fapstronaut

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    I think after all that time off of PMO, you should be good. I think you are just worried about how long your erection is going to last. When i decided to do the challenge earlier, i tried intercourse and ercetion will last with certain positions. Maybe you can try that?
     
  12. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant

    Which positions are the best for longer erections? For me, I failed missionary and doggie. Too fast for me.
     
  13. HandsOffPlease

    HandsOffPlease Fapstronaut

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    It's all to your liking bro. Try having her on top or try the same just not too fast. Take control. Talk to your wife/gf maybe she can talk to you dirty or something
     

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