sex frequency question

I think that this is a very accurate perception!

 

I'd be happy with once a month at this point.
Ideally once a day would be ok.
In a perfect world 4+ times a day would be grand. But I realize that's high expectations.

 

Ok . My thoughts and I can only speak for myself . As a pretty open sexual “being “ I think some of the responses indeed have a whiplash effect in this thread . I would LOVE 4 times a week . He’s ok with 1-2 times now . I think it’s great that you responded to the poster to chill and not READ too much into the responses . Our lifestyle could basically never allow for 4-5 times per week . It just wouldn’t . However he is filling the gap for me by being very affectionate and intimate in every other way . As an SO I think some of my need stems from EGO that was severely damaged by the P . Because I was down for whatever and he chose P . I don’t know if I’ve actually said it here , but DDAY I had the desire to go to a bar get shitfaced and take my pick ( I’ve never told my hubs this ) . Which would have solved my ego problem . Thank god I did not . Because it wouldn’t solve anything else . I think communication about sexual desires is hugely important after PA . All the other intimacies are so important for him now , myself as well but I think you said it perfect before , it’s anout wanting to BE desired . Feel wanted

 

Nothing that works yet. I've made lots of changes. I'm a different and better person for sure. But I'm still a slave to pmo. My wife and I are roommates with a lot of history. Code not broken.

 

Is he daily orgasm with you.
Or you and husband do karreza.
Because if I do daily sex I have problem come like anxiety, depression. But I am away from PM since 1.8 years.

 

What she said here is right. Basically my story in really short form is had our first kid, her libido went down, like a lot. I turned to PMO, and she didnt really mind. Neither of us knew the problems that come with PA at the time. That was in my mid 20s. Fast forward 9 years, and we were only having sex once a month...maybe. (two more kids too) finally I couldnt take it anymore, and confronted her about wanting more sex. I did not handle this well at first, PA almost turns your partner into little more then a sex object at times, so that's how I entered the conversation with that tone. Over the course of months, and many arguments I came to realize I had a much deeper problem then I thought I had. I learned PMO had actually lowered my libido, and I just thought I wanted it more when I fact I just wanted what I was seeing on the screen. She realized something's about herself and her role in getting into this rut. So we began a journey to rediscover this for us, I began to really try to heal myself in this, and she has began to rediscover the Joy's of a good sex life. Now that I am on the right path, and we have really changed things. We now have sex 3 or 4 times a week. And abstaining from PMO has honestly given me a higher libido. I have failed at this NoFap a good bit since starting, but thankfully never really too bad. That was due to me lurking here, and never talking, just white knuckling. I will say this those 3 or 4 times a week are amazing because she feels wanted and desired again, making her really into it. She even initiates from time to time. I would have sex everyday, but if I had to choose I'd take the 3 fulfilling times a week, over having to force her into it, and knowing she is not enjoying it. Hope that helps some.