Sex is disgusting to me

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Africanman, Jul 5, 2019.

  1. Africanman

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    so I recently found this site.. I used to m” everyday to hardcore porn . Sometimes twice a day. I got PIED from M . I made a decision to abstain from porn and girls for 90 days .. am now 25 days in.. and my attraction to woman has been damaged. I used to think sex was the greatest creation by GOD. But now that I have stopped fabbing to porn. I don’t see woman as the prize anymore. Am the prize! I normally feel inferior to girls in some kinda way. But now when I think of sex it makes me want to puke.. and am not gay. 100 percent sure that am not gay. I don’t know what to do. I think of sex as a disgusting, smelly act. I just want to be a celibate till whenever my mind can heal.
     
  2. TimeToQuitNow

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    Your libido will return at some point. You're just going through a flat line. It's a healthy part of the healing process
     
  3. Jerky

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    I have to agree. I never liked sex. It always made me feel bad after but it lacked the guilt and remorse that M always carries. I wish to remain celibate so i may redirect my sexual energy into other outlets. Interactions with females can be nice (in a non sexual way but using sexual energy to promote a social connection) but im nowhere near being ready to even consider such a thing.

    The 'other' part of me wants to be oozing sexual energy in order to attract females.

    I'm married.
    Shouldnt i be focused on attracting my spouse? This addiction is always looking to trip me over my own 2 feet.
     
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  4. TrueSaiyan

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    Hey man you're not alone in not liking sex. Michael Jackson didn't enjoy sex either from what I've learned online. He said he was afraid and scared of what do when he had his first relationship, but he still went on and was himself for who he was. I don't blame him or you at all. Sex destroy's relationships. First woman I had sex with doesn't even find attraction to me anymore from how much I try to keep talking to her. I wish I could have a relationship with her, but its just not possible now.

    Of course I would like to have sex again in a relationship, but it's best for any of us to just focus on our self's for right now.
     
  5. Africanman

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    Yeah that’s right! For now.. am not having sex or touching myself.. dude my facial is growing.. that’s enough reason for me to stay away from fabbing.. I have always wanted facial hair.. and my hairline is growing back also.. I can clearly see the baby hairs.. lol.
     
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  6. Africanman

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    Well right now.. I don’t want anything related to sex or fabbing.. even wet dreams are an issue for me..
     
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  7. Africanman

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    Don’t give into it.. this addiction is worst than crack addiction.. it kills the most important part of you.. your mind.
     
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  8. Stick with your plan brother and you will get to where you want to be.
     
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  9. TimeToQuitNow

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    Nothing wrong with that. If you don't want sex don't have it.

    Wet dreams you can't control so you shouldn't worry about them
     
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  10. ultrafabber

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    Yes you can
     
  11. Africanman

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    Really how?
     
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  12. Jerky

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    Please tell me how. I wish to prevent this from happening. I've have several throughout my life and wish for this to stop. I would guess it has something to do with not fantasizing.
     
  13. TimeToQuitNow

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    Have you done it? What did you do?

    Why would you want them to stop? Personally I find them fun. And they are so sparse that it like a nice random surprise from time to time.

    If it is happening all the time for you then I understand. For me it only happens once every few months.
     
  14. Jerky

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    I dont want them to happen ever.

    They make me feel dirty and disgusting, like being used by my brain without my consent.
     
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  15. Sharksvv

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    I think deep down you don't hate sex or think its disgusting, but rather reverting to what sex is portrayed as in pornography, aka cold, loveless and robotic. That isn't real sex and as long as you know the difference between the sex you see online and the real, warm, loving, human sex with a woman you love and who loves you back.
     
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  16. Africanman

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    This is kinda true. I just want to stay away from m for ever
     
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  17. Africanman

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    So true.. I just want to be a celibate for now.. love making is different from porn
     
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  18. ultrafabber

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    First, you need to understand and accept that wet dreams, to an adult, are abnormal and a sign of a problem.

    Then you need to accept masturbation is abnormal and you have to want to stop it forever, not for X days. Then you have to gradually train yourself to resist masturbation and resist getting aroused so easily by desensitizing yourself to the process of watching porn, which i wrote about here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...need-to-watch-porn-in-a-different-way.235748/

    When you go to sleep you have to make a plan like "if i am about to ejaculate in my sleep, i need to wake up", then have a plan about what you're going to do when you wake up. Mine was to either do situps until my erection is gone or to take a bite out of a dried hot pepper.

    @Jerky
     
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  19. TimeToQuitNow

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    It's not always possible to just wake yourself up during sleep. Your unconscious after all. Also how is it abnormal? It happens to nearly everyone given enough time without ejaculation.
     
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  20. ultrafabber

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    It's not possible with that attitude. No, you won't be able to do it every single time in beginning and you will fail every now and then, but if you keep trying you will wake up before ejaculating and later you will stop ejaculating in your sleep.

    It's abnormal, it's not a normal function of the body.

    It literally DOES NOT happen to everybody, some people never ever had a wet dream in their entire life.

    You dont need to have a wet dream. You don't need to expel semen.
     
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