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Sex / Sensitivity During a Streak (PE?)

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by DuckofDeath, Feb 4, 2021.

  1. DuckofDeath

    DuckofDeath Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys I'm on my second longest streak.

    After life starts to go back to normal I'm considering getting back into dating, and I'll still be on this streak (no ifs ands or buts).

    Why is that an area of concern? Sometimes my piece is so sensitive that I wonder what will happen the next time I'm intimate. I've never had problems with PE or ED for that matter, but that activity all took place when I was fapping, which drained away all this crazy energy.

    I've read that some guys have actually lasted LONGER in bed while on a streak, while others have fessed up to busting a nut while just making out with a girl on a 90day streak. Anyone here have experiences with this kind of thing? What about tips for enhancing stamina to offset how insanely sensitive and...enthusiastic...my member is?

    I feel like my dick is one of those old Wild West revolvers that would go off if you set it down on the table too hard :D

    Edit: I always use a condom, so that will scale back the issue somewhat, but I'm still eager for any other info.
     
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  2. skibum71

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    I have pretty major issues with this. Like...single digit seconds issues. As was apparent when i broke a streak, monk mode made my PE worse, absolutely, no question about it. Dont touch your dick for days/weeks/months, WTF do you think will happen? If you have hyper sensitivity to a stimulus, the only way to treat this is to come into contact with the stimulus and over time the sensitivity subsides, AKA edging, getting close to the point of no return, backing off, starting again etc...working to prolong the edging sessions, concentrating on keeping pelvic floor muscles relaxed, this is key.
    Obviously edging is a big no no on here, i dont care, i tried the abstinence route and as i say things absolutely got worse. If something doesnt work, change it. Which is what i did, started edging/training to delay the reflexes and i lasted 5 minutes last time - when you are worried you wont last 5 seconds that is HUGE progress.
     
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  3. DuckofDeath

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    Ooof, this is kind of bleak, but basically in line with my fears. I thought maybe it was just a part of the early stage of NoFap, and that maybe it went away after a long streak, but if you're still dealing with it 500+ days later, there goes that theory. How hard is it consistently edging and not relapsing? In my mind that requires a level of discipline that I can't fully fathom.

    This kind of makes me worry about NoFap possibly creating a problem where one didn't exist in my sex life. As much as I love the self-improvement benefits of NoFap, I don't know if I can handle this lifestyle if it means that from now on lasting 5 minutes in bed is cause for celebration :-(

    What about all those who practice semen retention during sex or those Indian gurus who don't fap and last hours in bed? There has to be a practical solution to this problem right? I'll do my research and report back in this thread, but if anyone has any answers or suggestions before then, I would love to hear them.
     
  4. skibum71

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    You said you didn't have PE problems before...so you're basically worrying about something that may or may not happen...never a good idea! And like ED, PE essentially feeds off worry.
    I've had major PE problems my whole life, I just wanted to share my experience that nofap absolutely made it worse (barely possible, but there you go)...if you haven't had PE issues before then my guess would be yes you might be a bit "trigger happy" initially but you should be fine.
     
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  5. PeterGrip

    PeterGrip Fapstronaut

    Have you noticed if your sensivity varies from day to day, or even throughout the day? I noticed it in myself, and to me that sounds like a clue that you can learn to control yourself better. From my own experience, it also really depends on how attracted you are to the girl you are with - I've only had sex twice but so far achieving orgasm through masturbation has been WAY easier than with a woman, though the first time I was piss-drunk, and the 2nd time I was on a 10-day streak, but she had been teasing me all day, which I think acted like edging as @skibum71 described
     
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  6. DuckofDeath

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    Thanks for the reassurance. Yeah I've noticed it does vary. Some days there will be absolutely nothing out of the ordinary, but other days it seems like there is a problem. For example, last weekend I was filling up my car at the gas station when I adjusted my package and suddenly felt something intense going on downstair. I'm not going to say that I was about to bust any second, but at the same time it felt like I wasn't far off. It's stuff like that that worries me.

    I know what you mean about achieving orgasm more easily by fapping. When I used to fap I could always come to fruition within a minute or two if I wanted, whereas with a girl it has always taken longer to reach a point where I was ready. But then again, when I was fapping I could pretty much stretch it out for an hour or more, whereas with a girl it reaches a point where I can't hold it any longer. I don't know if that makes sense or not.
     
  7. F-man

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    I stopped wasting my seed maybe five years ago and first thing I noticed was an enormous shift in sensitivity while having sex. I definitely cant do it like a porn star anymore. Girls gets a little frustrated but they also love it when I now become so much more aroused and finds "the orgasm edge" more easely.

    My "solutions " is to sometimes pull out and use my fingers and sometimes I just make it slow. My partner gets even more aroused when I am about to burst and stay there, not bursting by doing it slow. The partner absolutely have to collaborate on this one.

    When it comes to tantra and the way of tao there are some who try to manipulate their energies to make them explode upwards instead of out from the penis but that seems to be another level
     
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