Sex Starved Husbands

Deleted Account · Nov 30, 2018

HereAndThere said: ↑

Its a long video so i will give you the gist of it. Its commentary from sex therapist Bettina Arndt, talking about what it's like to be a husband, be a man, living his life groveling for sex. It concentrates on this issue many long term relationships have where men want sex and women dont, or at least want it much less.

First i want to get those arguments that women want sex just as much as men out of the way. That is a weak argument, because circumstances required for women wanting sex are different, making real situation very different. Only one woman in ten wants sex more than their partner. In 90% of the cases this is problem for men.

Classic advice is that all areas of relationship are somehow subject to compromise except sex. And that will stay that way for 'various' reasons. There are multiple angles to this issue. One of those angles is that many women are out of touch with their sexuality and its their responsibility also to better communicate with their partners. Could it be?! Blasphemy! So lets just acknowledge the situation and not the causes.

Why am i doing NoFap? i cant say it is to have a healthy relationship with a woman anymore, because thats just not something i have control over. One woman quoted in the video said "Sex gets wrapped up in all the garbage of the day". Its because women experience sex like that, its not just that act, its about EVERYTHING that happen in her life. You can be a perfect partner and if there is ANYTHING bothering her during the day she wont be able to get in her mood.

Soon these relationships degenerate into you managing all the small things(and big things) that might upset her, maybe pulling her into another reality, i know many of you know what i am talking about. With men is actually the opposite: hard days and stress kinda urge us to have sex to reduce stress.

Is that the relationship i want? Are my expectations wrong and i should just suck it up and leave my sex life at the mercy of randomness of the day? Can i suck it up? Is foregoing LTRs and commitment maybe the right thing to do? These questions is what i asked myself.

On the deepest level of this whole issue i recognize this expectation,demand, feminine has for masculine to fix all the problems of the world. Yeah, no wonder relationships are in crisis...
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I think that for those of us that aren't married, this is a good thing to think about

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