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Sex w/SO increases cravings for PMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by keastman811, Feb 21, 2019.

  1. keastman811

    keastman811 Fapstronaut

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    i was wondering if any of you who aren’t doing hardcore mode, just no PM, find that after you have sex with your SO That you are more likely to relapse in the next 24 to 48 hours? If so do you have any tips to prevent it?
     
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  2. PhattyPatato

    PhattyPatato Fapstronaut

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    well am doing hardcore mode but if i was in your place i would tell myself to wait until i had sex with my SO again.
    for example if you have sex once a week,you can tell your brain wait a few more days (3-4) ,and you will have the pleasure you are seeking.

    It can make you addicted to your SO then but better addicted to sex than porn

    give it a try,am sure it would work.They use the same method when dealing with procastination
     
  3. Numb

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    It is called the chaser effect and seems to be common. Being I am not a PA I have no experience here though. But my suggestion is to talk with your SO and let them know what is going on and to maybe lay off sex for now. Try a short hard mode, or do a full 90 day hard mode. You need to do what give you the best odds of recovery. Now you know that you are prone to relapse after sex, you just need to find a way to fight it.
     
  4. Tiredofporn75

    Tiredofporn75 Fapstronaut

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    I am the same way. Chaser effect was so strong.

    That’s why I am on hard mode. Goal is 90 days. Not sure what to tell you other than give hard mode a try for at least a while.
     
  5. samnf1990

    samnf1990 Fapstronaut

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    It does not have to make relapse more likely. Relapse comes from convincing yourself that actions you have already decided to be wrong and to quit, are acceptable and that you will do them. If you treat sex like a pursuit of stimulation and orgasm, ie, similar to how you used porn, then you will perhaps be in a mindset to relapse. Don't get into that mindset. Treat sex like an opportunity for intimacy and to express your desire for your partner. That way, the difference between sex and porn or masturbation is greater.
     

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