Sex with a Hot MILF, couldnt get it up!

Dude, you must go hardmode 90 days+ no pmo. What a wasted opportunity! I love milfs.

 

I have been in a similar situation. My first embarrassing ED encounter also took place with a female that I had always wanted to be with. She was also more experienced than me.

Couple of things. It could be because of Porn use. But it could also be an anxiety issue as well. Finally getting what you "want", that dream girl, adds a lot of pressure on us as well. Instead of being in the moment, we might focus on our fear of not satisfying her. Especially an older woman. This could be at play in your situation. Be kind to yourself. Take it slow with your next encounter. Don't make intercourse the goal. Be sensual. Give your brain a chance to catch up and gain confidence.

Try NoFap, especially no Porn. I am 46 and I'll tell you all those years of P has limited and/or made difficult life experiences on many levels. Porn is a fake world.

 

Man, that's too bad! Shit, all the more need why I need to stay on this path!

 

Have sex with people you like, not people you like the idea of.

 

I think when you are still using terms like milf you are definitely not far enough removed from the porn process. Why can't guys just say woman instead of these ridiculous porn induced acronyms.

 

I think it's cool!

 

I thought so.

 

LOL, yeah. It's shorthand, just take a chill pill and relax, there's enough stress as it is with trying to stay clean on streaks. If people here want to be Milf hunters let them be Milf hunters.

 

I see nothing wrong with it too, if they like each other go for it.

 

Sadly because some guys on here are just abstaining from porn in order to trade that life for a pornlike sex life. They don't want to quit porn, they want to live it out.

 

Of course he is "definitely not far enough removed from the porn process"!

• He has PIED!
• That was his first post;
• He has a personal best of 7 days!

Oh hold on a minute Bel, is Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) a "ridiculous porn induced acronym"!? LMFAO!

 

LOL

 

Although you say "some guys on here", the implication is that the new member is one of those guys. But that is unfair.
I don't think you can make that judgment.

 

I think it's better to live it out real sex than pixels. Just my thought. And they are both single so I see nothing wrong with that.

 

Cut @Bel some slack, you guys. Porn has caused her some serious emotional pain. She has every right to dislike that acronym.

And besides, let's be real, it stands for Mom I'd Like to F***. So basically, it's an acronym that explicitly reduces a woman's worth to whether or not she's sexually desirable. I can't speak for anyone else, but that's not the kind of mindset I want to have toward women anymore.

 

I can relate to that. I could not get it up when I´ve had a threesome with two hot girls. You can probably image how I felt afterwards.
While I still don´t think that porn was 100% responsible for this, because I was drunk as fuck and had caffeine and her place was terribly cold, I still think 90% was because of porn.
But not in the way you think it was. I was just anxious as hell, especially because the third one had way more sexpartners then I did.
I think porn is 50% of the problem and the other 50% are anxiety from trying to quit. Which means that if you would have no problems with your porn consumption you would have had 50% more chance to get it up.
But if you keep watching porn that rate decreases dramatically, whereas if you don´t watch porn that rate slowly increases.
There is also the typical flatline some guys experience when trying to quit porn. This could also be a problem.
So I´ve ordered some ED pills and took one when we had our second threesome. And viola, it worked. Gave me huge confidence.
If you really care about sex with her that much, get some pills. Just having them in your pocket and knowing you can use them if things don´t work out gives you the confidence that it should work out. And if not, you always have one in your pocket...

 

Sorry nothing against Bel, but we don't know about her story.
Guys can you please refrain from using the term cuz it's right it's degrading.

 

I'll cut Bel some slack because she probably stepped in some horse dung. I believe she works with horses.

 

Engaging in sex without developing a relationship rooted in compassionately caring for your partner is just a selfish act. Without that mutual respect, then both parties are just using and abusing each other and wasting one another's time/life.
The experience was not going to be a good experience for you either way, but the good thing is that you 'failed' and came here to ask about fixing your behavior/performance.
Stay here, listen and learn. And then if you choose to give rebooting a try, commit to the process of changing your life for the better.