Sex with wife

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by bumperlee, Jan 14, 2020.

  1. bumperlee

    bumperlee New Fapstronaut

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    I quit masturbating and looking at porn so I can maintain an erection and crave actual sex with my wife.question is will having sex with my wife be considered a relapse and will I still see the benefits of bi fap
     
  2. bumperlee

    bumperlee New Fapstronaut

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  3. Delta Tango

    Delta Tango Fapstronaut

    I'm not an expert, but my understanding is that here, we define our own goals and what requires a reset. If you are keeping free of porn only, then you reset of you have actively sought out porn. If you are keeping away from masturbation only then you reset of you have masturbated. If you are keeping away from orgasms then you reset if you have had an orgasm. You get the idea?
     
  4. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    It’s considered soft mode. Takes longer for your brain pathways to heal, comes with a chaser which can make it harder to resist urges to look at porn. Many with significant others choose this way, rather than hard mode.
     
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  5. Reverent

    Reverent Fapstronaut

    I might also add it's how you have sex with your wife more than whether you do.
    If you are objectifying her, using her as a tool or a toy, manipulating her to behave how or when, masturbating using her body with no connection, your brain will not overcome it's propensity to seek sexual pleasures outside of your own selfish gratification. It's very easy to still use her as your reward system for your sexual deviance. Be careful.

    But I'm all for it, love your wife, bless her, enjoy her, please her. Just do her for the right reasons.
     
  6. JustADude

    JustADude Fapstronaut

    Keep an open mind about your nofap experience. You have to find a balance between what is best for your marriage and the ideal way to handle the chemical and psychological impulses that will accompany you trying to alter your porn habit.
     
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