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Sexting Problems

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mithradates, Apr 22, 2019.

  1. Mithradates

    Mithradates Fapstronaut

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    A met a girl, we went out, and we just hugged and kissed good bye. We have been messaging and she keeps trying to make it sexual. I am getting aroused by reading her messages now. Is this considered porn? I have not really been replying to her. But I also am developing feelings for her. So I am stuck in a weird position.
    I havent talked to her about nofap or pmo, its way too early.
    Are sexual messages considered pornography?
     
  2. PMOare4SoyBoys

    PMOare4SoyBoys Fapstronaut

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    Not that I can think of, it's only a bad thing if it triggers you to do PMO but otherwise I don't see how this can be a bad thing by itself considering you've been doing nofap for a reasonable amount of time already.
     
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  3. If she is trying to push the relationship sexually then that will be the basis for your relationship. How could that be a problem right? Well her lack of personal boundaries could indicate a low self worth that she will be looking for you to help bolster by finding her sexually attractive. Sure the sex might be great at first, but are you wanting to be in a position of constantly having to fulfill someone's need for validation and approval? Is that what you want to be the basis of your relationship?
    Not saying that's all that is there. She may be awesome, just some things to consider. Are you looking for that same validation in a relationship?
    If so, why? If you are in the dating scene and ultimately looking to find someone you could want to spend your life with, it is worth taking some time to identify what qualities are important to you. What personal qualities are you bringing to the table? If you're on NoFap I would assume you're making an effort to make some positive changes in your life. Is it just to quit PMO or does it, can it, go deeper?
    Taking some time to seriously think through some of these things can save you a lot of grief and years in disfunctional relationships. Work on becoming the man you want to be and don't get sucked into a relationship that is going to compromise that. Once you're having sex in a relationship, it becomes much harder to think objectively.
     
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  4. Mithradates

    Mithradates Fapstronaut

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    Dude your questions made me realize that this girl is no good for me. Even though i would love to have sex with her, it would defeat the purpose of self-control. I barely know her and she is already trying to have sex and make things sexual. I think I miss the feeling of being in a relationship, more than I like this girl. You are right, its not about nofap, its about doing the right things in all aspects of life. I really appreciate your sound advice
     
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