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Sexting while rebooting

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Elpichulaxd, Sep 7, 2020.

  1. Elpichulaxd

    Elpichulaxd New Fapstronaut

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    Hello everybody

    A little bit of context: since quarantine I started my rebooting plan, after PMOing for 10 years and three bad experiences with PIED. I have been abstaining from P for 4 months, my longest streak in my entire life. I have experienced a lot of what can be read in the forum: low libido, flatline, lack of motivation and so on and it has been really helpful to read what others have done. Due to flatline, I have achieved erections of 60-70% and my morning woods have started to disappear. I have abstained from PMO, but I had MO (less than 15 times throughout the streak).

    Getting to the point of the thread, I have faced some past situations while rebooting. I would appreciate if you could help me with your feedback:


    I have a fuck-friend (FF) from long time ago (5+ years) but we are not in the same city right now. When we were together, with minimal contacts I got a lot of pre-seminal fluid and my erections were always of 100%. She really turns me on, mentally because we have a lot of trust between us and physically because her body shape is similar to the type of shape I used to consume in P. The last thing is important, because at the beginning of this year I was not able to reach an erection twice, and I think it was mostly because of these girls were not so "gifted" as my FF, also because of performance anxiety.

    In the past few days, she broke up with his bf and she started talking to me again. Yesterday we started to make sexting and she sent me photos. I thought my dick was completely numb during the flatline, but when I saw the photos I reacted the same way I did before: a lot of pre-seminal fluid and 100% erected. I masturbated yesterday and today.


    I have two questions about this:

    a) Should I start the reboot daycount again, considering I masturbated excited by virtual stimuli? I don't know what to do, because I know these would not be the last photos I will receive from her. The most important thing to me is to reboot my brain correctly, being able to connect with minds and not with body shapes. Stop being superficial. Remember I haven't seen P during the streak.

    b) Is there any way I could stop reacting the way I react when I communicate with her? Like training/teaching my brain as Pavlov did with his dogs. I am ashamed that before arriving at the act my underwear is completely wet (without reaching O), with not contact at all.


    Thank you for your support, I read you all
     
  2. Mr. Kruger

    Mr. Kruger Fapstronaut

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    I think the fact that this magically pulled you out of a flatline so suddenly says it all: you got that elusive dopamine rush that your brain was yearning for all along, and your brain rewarded you by letting you out of flatline prison before your release date. Sexting is still stimulating the same neural pathways that porn stimulates. Just because you're not specifically watching porn doesn't mean you didn't relapse, and thinking that it doesn't count because it's not actual porn is just splitting hairs. No matter what way you look at it, you're still getting sexual stimulation from a screen.

    You should really try to do this the honest way instead of using crutches like sexting with thots. Ultimately, it's your choice, but you're just delaying the recovery process when you cheat and use crutches. If I were you, I'd just try to date a respectable girl instead of getting dopamine thrills from thots.
     
  3. clapas

    clapas Fapstronaut

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    You are not commited.
     
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  4. GloriousBastard

    GloriousBastard Fapstronaut

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    If was only few strokes, a few seconds...let's say that can be forgiven...but if was a longer period it is a relapse. Most if you cummed.
     

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