Sexting

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Faptomist, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. Faptomist

    Faptomist Fapstronaut

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    This is day 27 and for the last few days I've been worried and feeling a bit down so I assume this is withdrawal symptoms.

    Anyway out of the blue I get a message from a girl I slept with a few times saying she had a dream about me. Her dream was sexual and she started describing it to me. We then started sexting each other a bit (I don't live near this girl anymore so it highly unlikely that we will meet up.) after about five minutes of being deeply involved in the conversation I thought, shit I'm feeling pretty good this must be releasing dopamine. I instantly stood up and went for a walk.

    It was strange I was walking down the road and girls were looking at me from across the street holding really strong eye contact etc but all I wanted to do was get back to the messaging.

    I'm taking the positives out of this thinking how strong my will power is to just get up and leave when I was so aroused but on the other hand does this count as a relapse? I didn't touch myself at all. I really, really hope not but my intention is to never waste my life force masterbating again so if it is a relapse so be it, day 1 will be just as strong as day 28.

    What's your thoughts?

    Thanks
     
  2. Definitely not a relapse, dude.

    Shouldn't even be a question. Relapse only occurs when intentionally edging, watching porn or masturbating. What you do in your private life in regards to sexting or enjoying the glances of women on the street is none of our business. That's your private life. Just enjoy it.

    Some people might comment and say that you should calm down with the sexting as it could be seen as a trigger, but honestly, that is just subjective.
     
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  3. crushurcravings

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    Sexting is still being sexually aroused by a screen. It's more than just a trigger. It's dopamine releasing and therefore wiring your sexuality to a screen.
    You even said it yourself. You had women looking at you, yet you just wanted to get back to your sexting.

    Whether this constitutes as a "relapse" is not of significant importance. Your brain doesn't know or care what day you're on. Just understand that this certainly isn't doing your reboot any favours and based off of that knowledge you can decide whether or not you want to indulge.
    Personally I'd strongly recommend not to, but that's just me ( :
     
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  4. SkyDoge

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    I see no problem with it unless it's going to make you relapse. Being aroused by an actual woman you know isn't something to feel guilty about. It would probably be better to do the old fashioned phone sex over voice though instead of text. Ultimately though like the others have said, fantasizing in any form leads to relapse eventually.

    You shouldn't be talking sexually with her though unless you want to get back together. From her texting you I would say it's a pretty safe bet she wants to see you again
     
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  5. ozymandias

    ozymandias Fapstronaut

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    after sexting I masturbated is that ok?
     
  6. SkyDoge

    SkyDoge Fapstronaut

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    You're probably definitely going to hell now.

    Just kidding. Only you can answer whether it's okay based on your own addiction and what your goals are
     
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    ozymandias Fapstronaut

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  8. AllanTheCowboy

    AllanTheCowboy Fapstronaut

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    Your thought of taking the positives here - that you were doing something problematic, recognised it, and dealt with it appropriately - is spot on. This was a close game, but you still came away with the win. And it's the 1-goal games that really make the difference over the course of the season.
     
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  9. 8BitsOfStuggling

    8BitsOfStuggling Fapstronaut

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    This! You had the will to walk away in a situation you saw leading down a dark path for you. That is FANTASTIC. Really big. You should be proud of yourself. Don't let it go to your head though, but be proud of yourself. Continue to keep that will and you will continue to do great, respect women and yourself naturally as this gets stronger and stronger. Good work!
     

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