Sexual Anorexia-Venting and Seeking Insight

How far along are you? Just 4 days since you last reset but how long have you been trying? Could you be in a flat line? That would explain you're lack on interest. Some guys enter a flat line almost immediately especially after multiple attempts to quit PMO. Have you always had no interest in sex with your wife or is this new since attempting NoFap?

 

That's sounds pretty typical of porn addiction and pied. I know for me, I was interested in sex but was having trouble with my erection during sex but not when watching porn. I felt like my wife wasn't sexy enough and she actually was not interested and I turned to more porn. But once I determined that my erection problems were PIED and quit porn and PMO, my wife started to be much more attractive and interesting and sex with hot much much better. If you can stop porn and PMO you might rediscover an interest in real women (hopefully your wife) but it could take from a few weeks to a few months to reset your brain. I lost interest in sex for about a week or two in the first month but my libido came back with a vengeance after that, around 40 days. Those were the hardest days for me during my reboot, but if your wife wants sex you might find it easier.

 

Yes but how long depends on factors such as age, how long you've been PMO'ing, and then it just varies from guy to guy. For me, I started have good erections in the night and good morning wood after about 35-40 days and good erection for sex intermittently after that. But I actually am still having some trouble at times. I think most of the trouble now is from worry about it. Like you say it makes you feel inadequate and less of a man, and then I started thinking of my erection the whole time. When I can forget about it, it can be ok, but if there's any slight problem I start overthinking about it and that's a sure boner killer!!! I always full, hard erections in the night now and most mornings so I know I'm ok, just need to get more success under my belt to have the confidence to stop worrying when we are having sex.

I should add, I've been PMO free for almost 11 months now. The PIED was a real deal breaker for me and porn, so I gave it up cold turkey on Nov 6, 2015 and will not go back.

 

It gets better, but I had to fix my head too. The more I thought about my penis, "Is it oaky? Oh no, it went a little soft, etc" the worse sex got, Took me out of the moment even though I started hard. The more I focus on just being with my wife, finding what feels good all over, the better it is for me.