Sexual attraction with girlfriend..

Just remind yourself how better you feel about yourself after having sex with her compared to masturbating. This is why you are rebooting. You’re doing a great job. Keep it up.

 

Great partners are few and far between, so congrats if you think you've found someone worthy of your time and attention.

Sending pics back and forth correlates with the thrill seeking behaviour that underlies porn addiction. Instead, explain to this woman that you find her immensely hot, but that you really want to focus on getting to know her as a person and prefer to lay low on pics and steamy chats.

Sometimes, it's fairly easy to slide in to sexual conversations with someone, simply because you are two people attracted to each other and topics of conversations might run out. Be prepared for that to happen and load up on stuff to talk about, like movies, news, hobbies, well everything and anything that you both are into.

99% of men want to talk about sex online and share pictures, so if you show interest in other things, you will be unforgettable to her, believe me. Nothing is quite as alluring to a woman as a man who is willing to forget about his dick for a while and be curious about her as a person.

 

Be very very careful taking this advice, last year I had an affair with a much younger woman. She loved to send me pics. When I questioned that behavior it was more than enough to cause her self doubt and upset her. Needless to say she ended up ending the affair and buying in with the first single guy to offer her attention. Remember the whole S.O section is nothing but a mine field of women who feel they are unattractive. Tell a girl you don't want her nudes? Kiss her goodbye. Basically you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.

 

Oh, sorry, online, I missed that part those are always a waste of time. Go get real thing.

 

Well, one obviously shouldn't say "don't send me nudes, I don't want to see your body". More like "I really want to get to know you deeper at this point, so maybe pictures and more intimate stuff can wait for now".

Sure, there are women who absolutely love to share nudes to as many guys as they can get attention from (it's a serious sport to some), but patholohical attention seeking, narcissistic people might not be the kind of girl one wants to have a serious relationship with.

When single, I got a million request for pictures online. It's nothing special, virtually all women get that. One guy however, was interested in knowing me as a person, didn't want to talk about sex, and that's the guy I fell madly in love with and married.

Be special. Stand out.

 

Chắc chắn, có những người phụ nữ hoàn toàn thích chia sẻ ảnh khoả thân với nhiều chàng trai mà họ có thể thu hút sự chú ý (đó là một môn thể thao nghiêm túc với một số người), nhưng tìm kiếm sự chú ý bệnh hoạn, những người tự ái có thể không phải là cô gái mà họ muốn nghiêm túc đang có mối quan hệ với.

 

Good advice, unless that guy is able to be so special because he's got PMO on the side to take those urges away. A lot of my journey here is realizing just how that was true for me. My "superiority" over friends that were obsessive about what their GF wore or just had sex as a much higher priority was a sham. Not to say those friends were all great examples but they were more honest (and less shy) about their motivations than I was.

 

True and very well said. The ideal must be to be honest with oneself and others.

 

Meet her in person and see if you're interested in spending time on her. If not, move on. It doesn't sound like a online relationship to me atm, it sounds like sexting (a.k.a. psub, possibly p). Good luck man!

 

Have you both met in person yet? These relationships that start online and get exclusive amaze me.