Sexual dysfunction after reboot

Hey Jarvy, sad to hear that happened. I can't tell you my experience because i don't have a partner yet... How did she react to it?

 

She should be supporting you instead of rejecting something its not totally in your control atm

 

Just out of curiosity and a little more info, did you have erections etc. during the reboot period?

 

It seems like NoFap is not that magical solution, for how long have you been having ED and PE issues?

 

Have you visited a doctor already?

 

After four months of no PMO, I started to date and had sex for two times. Two weeks ago it was ok, and last weekend it was bad (ED and PE).

I guess I will stop dating for a while.

The problem I'm facing here is that I can't really know how is my performance going to look like next time and how long do I have to wait...

 

The low T could definitely be the culprit. Also - there are a couple of accounts on here of people regaining sexual function after a 24 and 27 month flatline, so there's that.
Haven't been able to find those actual threads though, so this may just be a case of extreme broken telephone.

 

I am no guru on this but I personally do not think that going so long in hardmode is a good thing. There seems to be a point of diminishing returns for nofap in my opinion. Three to six months hard mode in my opinion and then you get back out there. I find my body takes a little while to get back into being sexual, It is kind of like you need to find your mojo back.

To give some context I am 40 years old and I find when I fall into bad habits and have had to do a good reset it takes me a little while to get going sexually again. I have noticed this trend over the last 15 years or so of relapsing, rehabbing and then relapsing again.

 

I can tell you for sure that this happened to me too, after a longer period of abstinence.
I had to kickstart with a few MO, when I even cummed with limp dick and after, was all good.
Your body have to learn how to react with physical stimulation, not visual...and takes a while.

 

Similar thing for me, I think your body just adjust to not having that sexual outlet. In my experience once you make it past the first 4 - 6 weeks the major urges to PMO disappear. Then for me there is a period where PMO becomes a non-issue. My challenge comes when I become sexually active again. I can find myself drifting back to PMO instead of saving my sexual energy for my partner. This has been a big challenge for me and is the reason why I had a recent reset.

I was a bit over six months PMO free and then as I got back into a sexual relationship and I fell back into bad habits. Like you said it took me a little to get going and then things were good sexually and then I went back to PMO and that has thrown me for a loop again. Last sexual encounter I had was not a good one.

My best advice based on my experience would be to go three to six months of hard mode. At that point you have broken the cycle if you have been consistent, it is now time to learn new healthy behaviors i.e. Real sexual experiences. Don't let PMO suck you back in cause this really disrupts the progress that you have made.

 

Same with me...I was good, made sex weekly, but I wasn't satisfied enoght so I begin to PMO thinking that I am ok and will not do to much harm one PMO per week. Guess what? In a month from once a week I reached to 8 hours edging a day...until I even wanked with limp dick. This shit goes for a few months. I am now again at point 0 but I know I can beat this shit...and I know how. Only reset is not enough...a rewire must be done.

 

Hey man, I know this struggle! The false sense of thinking you are cured, I have come to the realization that we can over come many of the problems that PMO causes but we have to remember we may always be addicted. There is no safe use of porn if you are like me. Anytime my mind is telling me that, I need to check myself and remind myself that is the addict in my head talking.

I believe that reengagement with the opposite sex is key, we are social and sexual beings. We often turn to porn as a poor substitute. Forming meaning full relationships with the opposite sex is key to the rewire in my opinion. And we have to realize it is not a simple task, it takes time and we need to commit to it. PMO is basically like your evil mistress.