Hi everyone, My husband has been P free for a year and half now (since DDay) but lately he has developed sexual performance anxiety and struggles to initiate any form of intimacy and affection. He doesn’t have ED. Once he starts showing intimacy he is fine but he struggles in the pre-intimacy stages, if I’m making any sense. He doesn’t know what’s holding him back. He says he still loves me and desires me. We communicate a lot and have been seeing an EFT couples therapist for a year now. It just feels like a massive regression and has thrown me into a massive depression. It’s been over a month since we last had any form of intimacy. I found out last night that he hasn’t masturbated since DDay. I’m in shock but he says he struggles to overcome the feeling of shame and feels it’s unfair to pleasure himself while our relationship is falling apart from his lack of intimacy. I’m all for M and suggested he should do it obviously without P and definitely not at work where he used to do it in the hopes that maybe a bit of self-Love and reconnecting with his body will help ease his anxiety with me. I just want to gain insight from other men who have dealt with sexual performance anxiety issues and what has helped/didn’t help, causes, etc so that I can better understand my husband. thanks!