Sexuality changes during NoFap?

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LucasToth

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Hi there, i want to ask one serious question that bothers me last days. I've started doing NoFap in the last week of August and soon it will be a month. During that time, i watched porn once but without MO.
I am 19 now. Since 15-16 i started to watch gay porn, and the time has passed and i've started to think that i may be gay. Straight porn with girls didn't turn me on like before that - it was only gay porn. I started to get horny to men and boys and that was really confusing to me because i had a strange feeling that i'm straight - i tried once in real life with a guy and that was really bad but once with girl it was phenomenal. It was only porn and my thougts that made me feel gay.
Since i've started NoFap, i was very horny first week (to men). But after a week and a half, i started dreaming about girls and had morning wood every morning. In second and last week i realised that men doesn't turn me on like before and the girls are again more interesting to me.
This is what i have to ask you people - what is happening? Is my sexuality really changing or? The porn i've watched during nofap was gay porn - and i didn't have a urge to fap (that happened 3 days ago).
 
You are not gay. As your addition to PMO grows stronger your brain needs more novelty, more variety and more hardcore scenes to give you the same "high" you experienced when you first started watching porn. So now you're watching dudes bang each other. You're not gay--you have escalated.

Stop watching lorn. And masturbating. Dos a Reboot (read about it in the forums on Rebooting Basics).
 
Like others have said, it's the porn. Whatever your true sexual desires, you'll get back to them as soon as you've gone at least ninety days without porn.

It may require more than ninety days, it may require fewer, but just trust the process. Commit to a life without porn and you'll no longer have to worry about sexual identity confusion and all the other anxieties that porn brings.
 
The main goal of porn is to lead you homosexuality get rid of it and you will be fine the last straw for me was looking at transwoman porn and I knew I never had any desires for that prior
 
There is a very big difference between actually being attracted to a particular gender, and having a sexual fetish that involves that gender. Porn is very good at, during our search for more novelty (the very thing that drives the dopamine feedback loop we experience when watching porn), awakening new fetishes in us. For one person this might mean a fetish around girls with a particular body type. For another it could be a foot fetish. For another it could be a fetish for those of the same gender.

It's very easy to tell if you're genuinely homosexual/bisexual vs if it's just a porn-induced fetish, because porn-induced fetishes decrease in intensity and eventually disappear when you stop looking at porn. On the other hand, if you're genuinely homosexual or bisexual, you'll find that even after having quit porn for a long time, that attraction will remain. The same goes for any other fetishes/attractions - you can find out which are genuine and which are porn-induced by abstaining from porn.

There have been a few similar posts here before where it sounded very much like someone was genuinely simply attracted to men, but reading your post it sounds like you're dealing with a porn-induced fetish. You said it yourself: You've experimented with both guys and girls, and did not enjoy it with a guy, but found it wonderful with a girl. You also said that it is only with regards to porn where you find yourself attracted to guys. On top of that, you've said that with abstinence from porn, those feelings are fading. So yes, it's very very likely that this was a porn-induced fetish and will fade away completely with continued abstinence.
 
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