She was possessed by my charm

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by nifahs, Jan 12, 2020.

  1. nifahs

    nifahs Fapstronaut

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    Okay so this October 30th (2019), I ended my 47 day no PMO streak. I'm still truggling to fight the addiction, and that has been the longest I've been without it in 5 years. That's crazy. Even though I've fapped many times since then, I still have a lot of benefits due to my average nofap days/fapping days ratio increasing.

    Benefits:
    More focus
    More confident
    More energy
    Sometimes, voice is deeper
    attraction from girls, has increased

    that last one is what I want to talk about, well I've always been secretly very charming and a smooth talker, with women especially. But porn took it away, and took it away hard (been PMOing since I was 15 years old, to now 23 years old).

    This November however, I saw this beautiful blonde girl and was talking to her, she kept looking down at my chest, and lower, trying to keep her gaze at my eyes. I knew she was attracted to me due to this alone. So I came back later and we were talking about obstacle courses, (she works at a gym that I go to for training), I was like "oh yeah we should go together sometime"

    She gives me a creepy smile, and goes like "maybe". And at that point, I tell her to give me her number, she goes like "okay" and pulls out her phone like she was possessed by the way I asked her. And so there you have it, I had her number.

    I've only done something like this a few times before in my life, and they were all times I didn't fap. Well here's to never fapping again.
     
  2. pcmaster

    pcmaster Fapstronaut

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    How comes you never lasted longer than 47 days? What is the routine like when you fail?
     
  3. Enigma897

    Enigma897 Fapstronaut

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    So of course everybody is different but in your words does NoFap truly make girls more attracted to you or is that the Male on a good nofap streak has an increase in confidence and then goes up to the woman, My question is how helpful is Nofap when attracting women to you
     
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  4. Blonderman

    Blonderman Fapstronaut

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    Pcmaster has a good question. Why you fail your course? What are the triggers why you fall back? What should you do, when you feel the desire to ease yourself?
     
  5. nifahs

    nifahs Fapstronaut

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    I would say my biggest consideration when failing, is thinking that I got this far, that I can control my lust now, and then I think, I have so much pent up sexual energy, why not just release it with a quick look at softcore images...that leads to eventually porn, or simply MO without porn.

    Also if you feed your sex drive by doing the following: checking girls out lustfully, thinking sexual things, touching yourself in a sexual trance, looking at lustful things, despite not relapsing per se, this will all create pent up energy down in your genitalia, and it will HAVE TO COME OUT, so you'll either watch porn and masturbate, or it will increase the amount of wet dreams you have.

    I got to day 47 without feeding my sex drive at all, don't feed it with lustful actions or thoughts, and it will not have to release itself.
     
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  6. nifahs

    nifahs Fapstronaut

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    Being on nofap, makes me confident, AND makes girls more attracted to me. I know because even before approaching girls, I notice them checkout me a ton more than when I'm not on nofap. After binge watching porn I've even seen girls go out of their way to not let their eyes land on me. Maybe it's my stance while walking that is more pronounced when on nofap, and maybe it's pheromones, regardless, even before talking to girls, or approaching them at all, they check me out more when on nofap.
     
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  7. pcmaster

    pcmaster Fapstronaut

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    That's one of the basic things on nofap - to keep your mind clean. I too sometimes want to look at softcore images or girls in real life. But I know where it leads and that it will not give anything to me in the longterm, only make things harder(not literally).

    I think one thing that helps me most now besides God's mercy is staying busy. Im busy 7 days a week and it feels weird when having free time after work with nothing to do.

    But sure number one thing for me is putting God first. He listened to my prayer to stay clean all summer and here I am now. I like how strong is christian community here on nofap. Despite all the relapses I know they eventually will win the battle if they stick to God no matter what.
     
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  8. t_s_28

    t_s_28 Fapstronaut

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    On the girls point, sometimes when you look into the eyes of your most successful friends/acquaintances there is always a different energy there, and I always get a feeling of it want to be around this person’.

    Since discovering nofap something dawned on me, those guys don’t fap off, I look at them and just can’t imagine them sat beating their meat to porn. I’m not saying that NoFap alone gives them this energy as I think the added motivation, drive etc all contributes. But surely this has something to do with it, when a girl looks into your eyes she can see a driven, motivated guy who could look after her ‍♂️

    Food for thought!
     
  9. nifahs

    nifahs Fapstronaut

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    yes sure thing, keep the mind clean and the streak will follow. I'm not Christian but I have the same mentality regarding God, and it definitely helps.

    yes indeed that puts it into perspective really well. I feel people, guys or girls, are more attracted to me socially and that explanation makes perfect sense as to why. Thanks!
     

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